Do I get involved?

[Sunshinealligator]

I'm not sure what do to, so I'm hoping that people can help me clear up what's the most reasonable thing to do.

It's about my dad has some mental health issues, and chooses to live in squalor. I've helped, I've cleaned, I've offered to arrange cleaners, I've given a lot more help than I should have.

He wasn't around when I was growing up, because of his alcoholism, and given the opportunity to be a grandfather has been just as much as a let down. He has consistently shown himself to be very selfish, including when he has animals.

He recently got some polecats. I'd discussed with him cleaning his home before they come. He also hoards so I was thinking of the polecats safety, that they might get trapped somewhere or eat something damaging to them.
He never did this. He started to complain that they were shitting all over the flat, and noisy and he was going to get rid of them. Then they went missing. He hadn't been out, didn't have any windows open but one went missing then the other went 2 days later. It took him a week to look for them. Thing is, he's convinced there must be a hole in a wall they got out of, I'm more concerned that they've got stuck somewhere in his piles of stuff and possibly died. There aren't any holes.

So 3 weeks on, he hasn't made any real efforts to find out how they got out, he has decided that he's going to try and rescue some new polecats.

I think its entirely irresponsible. He is of the view that he deserves to have some nice little pets to keep him company. I'm of the view that he is too selfish to have pets, and does not take the responsibility that they deserve as animals reliant on him entirely.

I think I'm letting some of my personal feelings toward him as a father and grandfather colour this, but at the same time if I just sit back and allow this to go ahead, it's my fault if the replacements end up in any sort of danger.

Am I unreasonable to contact the rescue centre and tell them ? It feels really nasty, but I just can't believe he's of the view that he deserves to replace these animals, without even a thought of what happened to the old ones.

I don't know what to do for the best. On one hand I feel like the replacements will be in danger if he has them, and on the other, If I do tell the rescue place, chances are he won't be getting them.

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves

Absolutely you should inform the rescue.

If he does get them then you should also call the RSPCA.

Odd that they vanished after him complaining they were soiling everywhere. Are you sure he didn't abandon them outside?

Ask him why he wants to get more when he didn't like the noise or mess. Ask him why he thinks these will be different.

That's a fabulous idea RE the RSPCA if he does end up with replacements. Really hoping that doesn't happen but if the rescues deny him, he might buy more from a private seller.

He doesn't think about his responsibilities, just his wants.

You have done the right thing . Be kind to yourself, you are saving animals from a home where they could go missing and enabling them to go to better homes, that is admirable.
I do hoard a bit ( and then take times of clear out ). I think it is an illness . My late father and 2 uncles on mums side are serious. You have done your best.

Don't doubt yourself as you have done exactly the right thing for your father, yourself and any future adopted pets.

Its a horrible position to be in when a parent has mental health issues and this will sound strange but maybe the good part is that the council refusing to do any work/repair would be on record which will help if you contact Social Services again.

Its awful but you cannot allow it control doing the right thing and you didn't:)