Tv in kids room

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Ds 9 is asking for a tv. He watches it constantly in living room anyway so won’t really increase screen time, will just free up living room tv for others.
I’m worried about night times though. I won’t want him watching it at bed time but can see it being a battle.
What rules do others have around tv in bedrooms?

Also, is it possible to get one that can access Netflix but not youtube?

Personally,I would never put one in any of the bedrooms for various reasons.
If you are really desperate,get a second-hand one (not the smart TV) and a Google dongle or similar where you can control what is he watching from the comfort of your device (laptop/phone/tablet).

Get an iPad and then take it back at bedtime

My son is 21 now but never had tv's in bedrooms. Seems to be the in thing these days. I was shocked to see so many put their kids to bed and shove on a dvd to get them to sleep (not saying at all you would do this). I loved bedtime as would have time to relax with son and quality time, read a story or make up a story and have bit of a chit chat. I never liked the idea of kids in bedroom and god knows what are watching and very isolating. But you know what is best for your child so maybe things have changed so much.

My two had tvs in their rooms from about that age. Years ago now, but to start with there were no aerials and they could just watch VHS tapes on it (built in), then later DVD players.
They always self regulated, so there was no watching it all night or anything, they would take themselves off to watch a bit after school or whatever..
We've also never taken phone or Ipads away overnight, their rooms were full of gadgets and screens but it's never caused issues. It all depends on the child really.

Sorry just saw your update and do understand about the issues. Have a friend and her little boy is only 3 and is glued to ipad and peppa pig and he needs the visual stimulation as he has autism and is also non verbal. If he does not have the ipad he goes into full meltdown so hard for me to understand until you mentioned that. But on the other hand I never saw her interact one on one with him, when my son little had jigsaws, lego, toys, etc now kids just want to be on ipads which is sad in a way. If he sticks to the times you give him and if he does not take it away and then try again. I know hard when kids take over the living space also.

@IrishMel

My son is 21 now but never had tv's in bedrooms. Seems to be the in thing these days. I was shocked to see so many put their kids to bed and shove on a dvd to get them to sleep (not saying at all you would do this). I loved bedtime as would have time to relax with son and quality time, read a story or make up a story and have bit of a chit chat. I never liked the idea of kids in bedroom and god knows what are watching and very isolating. But you know what is best for your child so maybe things have changed so much.

I'm 42 and had a little second hand black and white tv in my room when I was about 10. I don't think it's a modern thing. It's certainly wasn't uncommon when I was a child.

My Mam would read me a story or spend some quality time with me still. A tv doesn't stop a parent doing that.

If he’s obsessed with YouTube why doesn’t he watch that on the iPad and you have the telly? Our rule is no TV’s in bedrooms.

3 kids. All have tvs. I check in on them. YouTube is allowed for the older 2. Dd6 does not have the remote. We set her up with Horrid Henry or Mr Bean. I have a pretty good bedtime routine so it doesn't have any impact on it.

I wouldn’t op. It will be worse the older he gets you will find he never leaves his room. Put it off as long as possible

I only have one tv by choice. My son has autism and is obsessed with YouTube and certain games on the iPad. I’ve put a timer on them so he can only play the games for a maximum amount of time. The tv has YouTube but it has a passcode that he has to ask me for, therefore I can regulate it better. I don’t mind him watching tv as like your son OP he doesn’t know how to play with toys. What I hate is YouTube. The annoying prank type knobs that he insists on watching. Or the gamers screaming.

As a kid, I had a TV from around 7. It was attached to an extension that plugged in in the hall, my dad would turn it off at 8pm.

Then after that he attached it to simple timer plug that turned off at 9.

Then once I got like 12, he just plugged it in and told me not to take the piss.

@0nlyMe mines the same, obsessed with YouTube. I also have passcodes for the apps on the living room tv, so I can control when he puts YouTube on, turning it off is another story though. He watches gamers with the most annoying voices ever. If he’s not watching that or playing the iPad he literally climbs the walls and goes into meltdown. Only option is to go out.

@Retrievemysanity I don’t have YouTube, or the internet browser on his iPad. At least with YouTube on the living room tv I can hear what he’s watching. But actually, I may rethink this. All he does on the iPad is play roblox. If I allow YouTube on there he’ll have to choose between the 2 rather than doing both simultaneously as he does now. I’ll also be able to control the screen time on the iPad and only allow an hour a day of YouTube.

Still not sure how I can solve the issue of YouTube on bedroom tv though

My 9 yo had a telly in his room when he was around 7. But it was only for DVDs and the PS4. It's very rarely switched on. He prefers to watch TV downstairs or watch and play on his kindle.

I don't let them watch it at bed time unless him and his younger brother are having a sleepover in his room and then they watch a dvd.

If he has a tablet why can’t he just watch Netflix on that?

@Frazzled2207 because he’ll only use the iPad for playing roblox, which he does enough of. I probably could persuade him to watch things on there but he’d much rather use the tv for watching programmes, which I understand. Plus, the less time staring at the iPad the better.

Get a fire stick for the TV and only download Netflix on it. There will be a YouTube app but you don't have to download it and I think you can delete it off your home screen.

We don't have TVs in bedrooms. Mainly because it would mean the kids were sitting in their rooms watching tv and not socialising with others. Also I like of monitor screen time, which would be difficult if a tv was in the bedroom.
I did also control teens' screen time until after age 16, which meant no phones in rooms overnight and turned off from a certain time in the evening.
People do become addicted to screens and phones and it's quite important to teach kids / teens that they can do other things rather than just watch screens.
We lose teens to their phones enough as it is, I would try to reduce this as much as possible and for as long as possible with kids.

I had one in my room from around 7 (I’m 37 now so this is a while back!) I don’t remember it ever being an issue. I would have had it taken away immediately if I’d ever dared to put it on after bed time. No bad outcomes but then I was limited to 5 channels 😂Don’t watch much that much now! Not sure why some people are so anti Tv!

My kids all have a TV in their rooms. My eldest (almost 17) will watch a couple hours in the evening some days. Middle (12) very rarely watches here. Yougest (8) will use his most days to play computer or maybe a bit of Netflix. His is actually a 4k monitor connected to his ps4 so can download any apps you want.

The girls never had tv until a bit older and sons had one since about 6. They have never been allowed it on at bedtime as a rule so its never been an issue.

My 8 year old has had a little old TV with built in DVD player since he was 4. It isn't set up to work for anything except DVDs so no danger of him watching anything unsuitable. He doesn't watch it often - I realised today that it was still unplugged from before we went away 2 weeks ago - but it's nice for him to have the choice to chill in his room with a film if he wants to.

All my kids have TVs in their room. Youngest is 10 and got it for her birthday. They have lots of screen time. They're doing ok 😜

I wasn't allowed a TV in my room until I'd finished my GCSEs 😂 but what I came here to say is that we have a telly that has Netflix, Prime, etc but you can't watch YouTube on it or access the internet. I don't think it would be hard to find one.

My DD has a tv in her room. She's 8. She plays Roblox with her friends a lot and likes to watch the annoying walkthrough vids so we got her the tv. She knows when it has to go off by and if she doesn't abide to it we take it off her and at weekends we try to watch stuff together on the big tv. She has a cabin bed and tv is on her desk underneath so she can't watch it in bed or anything.