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To think this is actually crossing a line from annoying into creepy now?

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troobleflooble · 10/10/2021 12:22

Sorry, it's little long!

I met a guy a few years ago when I was single and on dating sites. We went on a couple of dates, ended up sleeping together a few times but ultimately he decided he didn't want a relationship.
Over the next few years we didn't really stay friends but occasionally if we were both single we might have the odd night together. I am theoretically fine with having a fwb but I realised that actually he has no interest in talking to me unless we were hooking up and I wasn't very happy with this so I put a stop to it and eventually got into a relationship with someone else.

After not hearing from him for months he started messaging me on SM asking for sex or sending me dick pics. I told him I was in a relationship now and wasn't interested in maintaining contact, let alone having sex with him any more. He ignored this and continued to send pics so I blocked him.

Fast forward another year or so and my relationship ended so I went back on dating sites - there he was. The requests started coming again but when I turned him down he became quite abusive and called me horrible names so I told him absolutely, unequivocally that I was no longer interested in any contact and that nothing would ever happen with me and him again so please stop contacting me. I blocked him there too and on every other platform I have (Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat etc). Deleted his number.

I've just had a friend request on a platform I've previously blocked him on, it's a new profile. I've also had him try to add me on a SM business page that doesn't have my name on it.

Aibu to be kinda creeped out? I've told him repeatedly that I'm not interested but he doesn't seem to want to leave it alone! Am I just being paranoid?

OP posts:
PartyStory · 10/10/2021 18:18

As others have said, this is stalking. Report to police now. You already don’t like his behaviour so there is no reason to wait for him to act poorly again. If you can gather screencaps and make a timeline that will be helpful for them.

If he contacts you again, do not interact. It will only make things worse, even if you are clearly saying no. It’s a reaction he wants from you.

As for your boyfriend, tell him you are reporting someone that you saw before him to the police. If he asks for more details, tell him the truth. If he has an issue with any of this, then bin him.

lisaandalan · 10/10/2021 22:48

Report him to the police, don't leave it you need this on record. X

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