To ask if anyone's left their controlling partner

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I would love to leave. I'd pack in the morning, but as crazy as it sounds I can't bear the thought of hurting him by taking our children away from him.
At times he's controlling, nasty, unreasonable with our toddler, has stopped me seeing family, & I missed one of my best friends weddings this year.
I'm a SAHM, but this means he thinks I'm responsible for everything... cooking tidying washing playing feeding, because he 'pays the bills'. we have a 3 and 1 year old.
We have actually just had a week away, but I've bitten my tongue everyday, for the sake of the children having a good time.
But I'm not happy. I feel I'm missing out on so much, as I can't spend time with my family or go anywhere with them.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation and managed to leave guilt free?

Will he never see the children again, or will you co-parent?

I think you need to put your dc first in this.

If he's unreasonable with the toddler that will only get worse as the dc get older and challenge him more.

And it sounds like he's not going to be the best example for them.

Plus they will not be happy with an unhappy home.

Lastly, you deserve to be happy too. Don't put his feelings before your own (or your children's welfare). You are important too.

If you leave he will only cease access to his children if he stops it surely? So go. He will have the children in his life. It's on him you won't be his skivvy.