So, this morning my partner got up to make coffee and feed our dogs. He shouted up at my asking why I hadn't told him I was cleaning the kettle. I headed down to say that I had told him and an argument started him saying I hadn't and me saying I did.......
background to the kettle cleaning - last night we had been to the cinema and when we got home one of our dogs had been really ill (smell was awful) so in between cleaning up the mess I put white vinegar in the kettle to descale over night and to try to mask the smell a little.......
Back to the argument and after several I did tell you/not you didn't, he said I'm not a f*#king idiot. It shocked me and replied with why would I make this up and said that he remembers it one way, I remember it another. It then got heated and I walked away.
I started thinking that it's two people who remember things differently and can move past it if both parties accept that they remembered it their way, which doesn't make them right or wrong - it just is.
I tried to speak with my partner about this, also asking why it was an issue with cleaning the kettle - even if he didn't know and why he would say he's not a f@*k idiot, but just got back that he was right and I hadn't told him, no matter what I thought I had said. I continued with asking why would it not be ok to view it that way and got told he was over it and not to continue.
His answer is that what happened this morning is nothing and I need to drop it. He is now carrying on as if the argument never happened and is happily going about his day.
AIBU by wanting to work this through with him? The easy solution would be to either ignore or concede - but I know that always come back to bite. Or am I being stubborn (it's a trait I have, am working on being more aware of it and being more reasonable) and difficult with my approach or wanting to work it out - and really should follow his lead to just drop and forget about it?