Friend taking me for granted?

[User112]

So, this is a recent friendship. Call her A. She invited me for tea and after going there I realised she also invited another friend B too. I only met B once before at an event via a mutual friend. No idea how deep A and Bs friendship is.
“A” very kindly bought a lot of biscuits, cakes and made some lovely sandwiches. She offered tea to me and B. All through the evening, she kept asking B to try cake, serving her some more, asking if she wants more tea. I was RIGHT THERE. Not once did she ask me if I wanted anything. I took some and that’s it. She was so attentive to B !

I don’t know why she did that, but I don’t think she realised she was ignoring me. As I said, our friendship is just a few months old. We both come from the same neighbourhood and same city (although never met before). That’s how we connected at a friends party. Also, our kids go to the same school so we sometimes ride share.
I don’t know how to take it from here. Should I phase out - I just feel taken for granted. There was no need for her to invite me for tea at all if she wanted to was worship B !!

AIBU ??

It might be that she is more comfortable with you or that B is going through something.

I don’t think I could take this as enough of a slight to decide to end a friendship over. She invited you over after all…

I don't understand the taken for granted part, it sounds like all you had to do was turn up and have a nice time. You weren't asked to bring food or drink which was then presented as the hosts which is what I'd call being taken advantage of.

I expect there's something going on with person B that you aren't aware of that makes person A more attentive of. If it happens again where they were super attentive I'd probably start asking questions but as a one off in a very new friendship I'd let it go if I felt the relationship had legs.

I think you've been a little too sensitive here and should give it another chance if you feel you could be good friends.

It's a one off.. a bit soon to call it?

Why do you feel taken for granted?

For all you know there's a good reason she's fussing over B that you're not aware of likes she's going through some things emotionally or having a health issue where she's losing weight or something. Seems an odd conclusion to jump to from this one incident...

Eh? I’d assume she doesn’t know her as well and they are less comfortable with each other.

I wouldn’t expect a good friend to wait on me hand and food, I’d just ask or help myself

@BurntO I don’t expect to be waited either. But if two people are at the table, I’d offer both. It’s a bit strange to pretend there is only 1. This happened several times (the same evening)