Family and social media.

[Klac30]

My mother literally likes or comments everything I post on Facebook - I don't post
Much though tbf. She always has has to comment on everything even if she has no idea what it is for or it has nothing to do with her. I live in a slight different area (not far away) she'll reply and like to my neighbours or friends in the area (who has never met). Which is annoying but I'm used to it. It is embarrassing though.

I don't feel the need to comment or like everything family post because I'm going to speak to them in real life (or over a phone call or whatever). My mum will get offended if I don't like or comment on what she posts (usually all complete tosh)

Also, a while ago I didn't put happy birthday on my mums Facebook wall on her birthday. She got majorly offended. I didn't feel the need as I had seen her in person with a card and gift plus a text.

I'm just sick of social media ruling my mums life. When it was just her in my family on fb is block her from seeing odd stuff but now my siblings are on it etc I don't. She just gets involved in everything.

To add, she's not elderly and confused (50), not lonely or anything but social media rules her life!!

Aibu to be just sick of it? Or should I just suck it up and not let it bother me??

It's always instant with her. If I post something she's all over it immediately!

Her and mil always seems to make what comments they leave a competition on photos if the kids so much so I don't really post much as I said above! Mil doesn't go on fb half as much though so she's manageable! 😅

Does she think you''re posting just to her? I know someone through a hobby who is a lot older than me and his kids set up his social media for him, and he comments on EVERYTHING he sees. He mentioned in passing that it's hard for him to keep up because people send him so many messages, and he doesn't know why people are telling him everything and sending him pictures of their tea ..

.. I then had to explain that everyone they were friends with could see it, and it wasn't just specifically sent to him. He didn't really understand and still comments on everything.

Is there any chance your mum thinks the same?

Not posting happy birthday on Facebook to a close relative who does value comments is definitely going to offend them so I would have said happy birthday on Facebook too if she appreciates that.

Not unreasonable not to comment on everything though.

I think if you post anything on SM you are inviting people to comment surely? What you consider too much is clearly not the same for your mum.

I don't think either of you should be able to dictate the way the other uses their SM account. You telling her she posts too much is no more UR than her telling you you dont comment enough. (I agree with not having to comment on everything or wish someone you actually see happy birthday on Facebook for the record).

I have an older friend who is like this. He drives me potty. He comments on anything I post or am tagged in, even if he doesn’t understand it. He also has to send friend requests to ALL my friends, even if he only met them once for 2 minutes. He then proceeds to like/ comment on every single thing they post too. He is extremely lonely though.