Dh and MIL

[jellybaby10]

This is going to sound ridiculous but I need to vent on here rather than cause a silly argue me too at home. All week MIL has phone DH to say it's his brothers birthday this week and dropping hints about giving him a call etc.

There is a long history of MIL repeatedly forgetting our children's birthdays over the years or sending a card to one child but not the other.

Anyway my husband phoned his brother to wish him happy birthday even though they don't have that type of relationship anyway. It's not the wishing him a happy birthday it's the fact he's done it because his mum has said and she doesn't even phone our children ever to chat.

Please somebody talk some sense into me because I'm driving myself mad here. I'm not a mean person but there is a lot of bad history on MIL part since our children were born.

so why not phone her every day for a week before one of your children's birthdays? to remind her?

and when you're calm tell him how her calls and him calling his brother made you feel. Get it off your chest with him.

In dh's defence maybe he just wanted her wittering to stfu!!

Putitng the relationship with your mil aside, in my mind she reminds your dh because his db is her child and she is coming to this situation as a mum herself.

That makes sense crimson lake. I just feel sad they don't have a relationship with a grandparent as she is the only one surviving. My oldest noticed this year that his man forgot. I just kept it low key with him that it's not meant and people do forget. He understood.