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Did he think we are poor?

50 replies

Obsessedwithbluey · 08/10/2021 13:42

For context, we live in another country, we generally use their nhs but occasionally pay for private doctors/tests etc.
Last weekend, Dd, 3 was really sick and wouldn’t stop vomiting, she’s never ill and has no energy and completely not herself. We started to get a bit worried about her. It was a Sunday so surgeries were shut apart from doctor call outs. It was either this or A & E at the local hospital, which ideally we wouldn’t want to do.
We called the private doctor we’ve used before, we knew it would be expensive as was a house call out and a Sunday. I didn’t check the price in all the fuss.
When he’d finished, we asked how much and he said €170, we paid and he left.
Dd was fine by the evening, thank goodness.

On the Monday, the surgery secretary called and said the receipt was available did I want her to email etc. She then asked if she could just clarify the amount paid as call outs by the doctor are €200 normally, I said he said €170 and she said ‘Oh ok he must have charged you less’

It did make me wonder afterwards, why?

I do know that the majority of people he likely attends to are very wealthy, the area the doctors is in is v expensive-millionaire territory. The house was also pretty messy as we were busy looking after Dd

Why did he charge less?

OP posts:
Singinghollybob · 08/10/2021 14:16

I had 2 private consultations this year and the consultant at the end of the second one said don't worry about paying for this one, I won't charge.
I was just very grateful and said thank you, it didn't cross my mind to think he thought I was poor and couldn't afford the £220.

Regularsizedrudy · 08/10/2021 14:17

Why do you care?

Lweji · 08/10/2021 14:20

He only charged you £30 less. If he thought you were poor, and couldn't afford to pay, he'd have charged you nothing or the £30 instead.

It must have been that the visit was short, or because it was a child, maybe.

apalledandshocked · 08/10/2021 14:21

A poor family would not be able to afford 170 for a call out.
I had a vet not charge me once when the appointment only took 5 minutes (as I wanted something checked but it turned out it was fine). Now - her didn't need to do that, I would have been happy to pay for the 15 minute appointment slot but I think he was just being nice (and maybe trying to encourage repeat custom), I doubt it was because he thought I couldn't afford it. So I would just be chuffed you got a discount.

MumOfTwoChildren · 08/10/2021 14:23

Why does it matter? He might have not realised it was a weekend and charged you a weekday call out rate, a child rate, or just did a nice thing. If you're really putting this much thought into it, may I suggest you get a hobby.

MarshmallowSwede · 08/10/2021 14:25

So you’re complaining that you saved 30 euros?

Some of the wealthiest people I know treat saving money and getting a discount like a competitive sport.

”Only a fool pays full price”.

purpleme12 · 08/10/2021 14:27

If I got charged less for something this thought wouldn't even occur to me, I'd just be thinking, 'yesss'!

icedcoffees · 08/10/2021 14:31

Just appreciate the fact that you saved some money! Not everything has to be an insult, lol.

dworky · 08/10/2021 14:31

Why would that bother you? It really doesn't matter what he thought.

Bellyups · 08/10/2021 14:32

Why are you even thinking this OP? Does it really bother you ConfusedHmm

LaughingLobster · 08/10/2021 14:34

@sirfredfredgeorge

Who cares? If you feel you got some charity that you don't need, pay it forward to someone else.
I love this answer!!
shouldistop · 08/10/2021 14:38

He probably just made a mistake. You're way overthinking this.

Daisy829 · 08/10/2021 14:40

I had a similar dental situation. Failed root canal which should have cost hundreds. In the end they had to remove the tooth and they only charged me about £50 for the whole process. I think she just felt sorry for me as it was quite traumatic. I wouldn’t over think it it’s a kind gesture.

grapewine · 08/10/2021 14:43

Right, because him thinking you're poor would be awful. It's an insult ... or what?

Just give it to charity if it upsets you.

RickJames · 08/10/2021 14:43

I've had this before. Some people think "foreigner - struggling". I must admit though its never been as nice as getting a discount, rather more "are you sure you can afford this?" My friend who is black as well as foreign has had this more frequently than me, sadly.

Enjoy your 30€ and hope your DC feels better soon.

RickJames · 08/10/2021 14:44

Sorry, I meant 'I' hope your DC gets better soon, not that you should. That sounded a bit passive aggressive!

EvenRosesHaveThorns · 08/10/2021 14:44

Sounds like a good deed. Are you really bothered about being considered poor with all that going on? Insanity

purplecorkheart · 08/10/2021 14:44

Most likely that it was a child and it was a simple call.

SisterAgatha · 08/10/2021 14:47

No he probably just felt for you and your sick daughter.

I work with a millionaire at her family business and she gets things for free or discounted all the time, outside of work. Just take it.

hereforfun · 08/10/2021 15:03

@Nap1983

Dear god… the shame of someone thinking your poor…
Honest
hereforfun · 08/10/2021 15:03

*Honestly

girlmom21 · 08/10/2021 15:14

I'd like to think if he thought you were poor he'd have been more generous.

Could it be a reduced rate because it was for a child, or is he new to the practice and charged the same as his old rates?

TangoWhiskyAlphaTango · 08/10/2021 15:17

@mm40

We had a private consultancy earlier this year and whilst fully expecting to pay the full amount the bill was around 50% as the consultant realised that we were actually NHS staff. We didn’t take offence at all and said ‘thank you’ very sincerely when we left.
I had this happen to me. Paid to see an Orthopaedic consultant privately as I was in a lot of pain. Once he found out I was a nurse he took £50 off his charge, I thought it was lovely of him.
ThumbWitchesAbroad · 08/10/2021 15:22

Oh goodness, why are you bothered? If he felt kind enough to charge you less, perhaps because it was a sick child and he had sympathy, then let it go!

GoodnightGrandma · 08/10/2021 15:45

Perhaps he charged less because she’s a child. I wouldn’t worry about it, you paid what was asked.

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