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Colleague snaps at me

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Borderline998 · 07/10/2021 23:02

It’s a physical job where we often have to work in pairs. I work with several different people, only actually work with said colleague a couple of times per week for 1-2 hours, but it’s usually the same.

She’s very experienced in the role and near retirement age. She just gets exasperated sometimes in front of clients or speaks rudely and I don’t think I should put up with it.

She’ll say stuff like ‘What ARE you doing?!’ Or just ‘Oh God’, or you’ll just hear it in her tone of voice.
Once she snapped in front of a client “You’re not doing it properly!” Or stuff like ‘Well obviously you need to do that now’

Otherwise, she’ll tell me what to do even though I’ve been there for a couple of months now.

The problem is I probably make more mistakes when with her because it makes me nervous and flustered. I thought I was being overly sensitive but I’ve never had that from any other colleague, they have polite and tactful ways of speaking.

I’ve never had complaints about my performance from management or from clients, I am newer to it and I understand that it must be frustrating if you’ve years of experience.

The thing is when we drive between jobs she’s perfectly nice, it’s just when we actually do the work.

Does it sound like I’m being too sensitive?

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WorraLiberty · 07/10/2021 23:05

No it doesn't

But you need to tell her to stop snapping at you and point out it's affecting your performance.

The drive between jobs would be a good time to have that conversation.

Borderline998 · 07/10/2021 23:09

I need to have the courage to do it, I know you’re right. I’ve started to defend myself during the jobs, saying ‘Yes I’m aware of X’, yes I know X’ etc.

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pelosi · 07/10/2021 23:09

You need to tell her each and every time not to speak to you like that.

Borderline998 · 07/10/2021 23:11

I wish I were more assertive. I’ve never seen her working with others so no idea if she does it with them or not. Then when I leave she’s all ‘take care now!’ And like a different person

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