To think it seems as though Tinder guy might want more than casual?

[Lizzie523]

Posted a little while ago about a guy I was meeting from Tinder. Slept together on first date & soon after I spent a weekend at his home. We had lots of great sex, he cooked for me numerous times, good conversations & watched a film together with me snoozing in his arms. I left feeling v happy and pleased with myself 😁 I also felt content with the idea of not hearing from him again, totally fine about it in fact.

He then called me after 5 days (quite a long time imo) & we had a chat. We had another phone chat a couple of days later about our weeks/work etc & now he is intending to visit me next week, says he is looking forward to spending time together etc.

Tbh I was hoping for something casual and low key/kind of still am, but I am wondering if I've been mistaken in thinking he wants sex only?

I see potential incompatibilities, so I'm reluctant to lead him on if so. At the same time, I enjoy being with him & well... it's nice to have someone to snuggle with after such a long time single 😁 am I over thinking?!

Also key is the fact that I sadly didn't get the job I went for on his city. I'm still interviewing for jobs there and in this city.

If he didn’t call you for 5 days I think he’s wanting something more casual too, do you like him or not?

@LawnFever well that's what I thought. But we've talked a few times since then. He calls and texts.

I do like him but I still feel it's early days. My life is very up in the air with where I'll be working & living, which is part of the reason I am happier with a low key situation for now.

I failed to explain properly above that I had interviewed in his city when I met him but didn't get that job.

He had said he didn't want the connection to be a 'quick shag and ghost' scenario which it isn't clearly, but not sure what is after yet.

Basically as a former serial monogamist I've never had a fwb so I don't know what is and isn't normal.

I see it as something to enjoy over a short term period but would feel very guilty if he ended up wanting more.