Family Holiday hassle

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BIL and SIL live overseas they have a timeshare deal for weeks in a hotel near them DH /BIL/SIL thought it would be a good idea for us to join them in March for a holiday together for our wedding anniversary using their deal . We have just had our latest long haul holiday cancelled so have had no holiday since last year so am desperate for a break. BIL and SIL are quite last minute so we have been trying to pin them down for wether they wanted to go away in March with us or was it just talk in which case we would do our own thing. Just pinned them down to dates and they are organising hotels, Up until now we have not had a clue on costs other than they can get 50% off the hotel, turns out I can book the hotel for a lot less through tui than using their time share deal . (About £1000 cheaper) I want to go with tui but DH is having a fit about the fact we agreed to go with them using their timeshare deal. Surely the point is we are holidaying together and I am not paying an extra £1000 just to make BIL/SIL feel like they are doing us a good deal (when it turns out isn’t!) Actually I think their rooms are club whereas Tui is standard so there might be a few lounges we can’t access but the price differential is massive
Am I being unreasonable to just say we can get a better deal ourselves . I must admit I feel bad because SIL/BIL think they are doing a nice thing for us which is really nice of them but in reality it works out £££ more.

I would go with your gut. A thousand pounds is a massive difference.

I would check out exactly what privileges a Club room gets, which the standard rooms don't. It might be a bit awkward if, say, you want to swim together in a particular pool, or have dinner in a certain restaurant, if you aren't allowed in.
It would have to be something special though for me to pay an extra £1000! I would've thought SIL and BIL would understand this too if you told them of the price differential.

Be upfront, show Bil and Sil the price and spec you have from Tui and ask how their deal could be a better option, as in what would you get for the £1,000 more?

@Leeds2

I would check out exactly what privileges a Club room gets, which the standard rooms don't. It might be a bit awkward if, say, you want to swim together in a particular pool, or have dinner in a certain restaurant, if you aren't allowed in. It would have to be something special though for me to pay an extra £1000! I would've thought SIL and BIL would understand this too if you told them of the price differential.

Definitely this. They will be paying for Club but might have to miss out on access to certain things or places in order to spend time with you. In which case they might as well pay for standard.

@BlankTimes

Be upfront, show Bil and Sil the price and spec you have from Tui and ask how their deal could be a better option, as in what would you get for the £1,000 more?

Exactly, doesn’t need to be a confrontation, just ask them if they have any insight.

Even if it wasn't cheaper to go through TUI I doubt BIL and SIL are doing you a favour by letting you use their timeshare. They've likely amassed points during lockdown that need to be used up and whilst I'm sure their timeshare allows them access to nicer lounges etc. it hardly seems worth spending £1000 more.

A thousand pounds? Christ. That's three holidays for me. Ask your 'DH' to pay for the difference if he's that bothered.