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MiaMarshmallows · 06/10/2021 18:47

Saying everything is fine when it is clearly not? Seem moody and annoyed with me.
Know they are going through a lot at the moment but aren't we all? I can't fix something which I do not know about.

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MattHancocksSexTape · 06/10/2021 18:56

Maybe they don’t want you to fix things, and you keep asking which is making them moody and annoyed with you?

Aquamarine1029 · 06/10/2021 18:57

Why would you assume you can "fix" things?

pictish · 06/10/2021 18:59

Depends what and who you’re referring to. Maybe this person doesn’t want to offload right now, perhaps it’s very personal, maybe they’re embarrassed. I say ‘fine’ sometimes when I really mean ‘not fine but don’t want to discuss thanks’.

They might be a huffy, passive aggressive pain in the arse as well of course.

pictish · 06/10/2021 19:00

Maybe you’re just getting on their nerves…justifiably or not.

MiaMarshmallows · 06/10/2021 19:01

I have a feeling they are annoyed with me yet they will not come out and tell me what the issue is.

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MagnoliaBeige · 06/10/2021 19:03

With people like this, I take them at their word and don’t ask them more than once. If they want to be sulky and not tell me that I’ve annoyed them, I up my sunny mood around them and get on with my day.

icedcoffees · 06/10/2021 19:04

Maybe they want you to stop asking and leave them alone?

Not all problems/moods require someone to step in and "fix them".

wigglerose · 06/10/2021 19:05

Leave them to it. Create some space and do something you enjoy.

Holly60 · 06/10/2021 19:09

@icedcoffees

Maybe they want you to stop asking and leave them alone?

Not all problems/moods require someone to step in and "fix them".

But then don’t have a bad attitude which warrants a comment in the first place. I’m occasionally not really ok, but don’t want to be asked about it. In which case I do a good impression of being fine. Or if I couldn’t hide it I’d say something along the lines of ‘ah I’m not great but it’s not you, I just need to get my head around it’.

I don’t go around in such a mood that people ask if I’m ok but then say I’m fine when asked.

TrinidadQueen · 06/10/2021 19:10

Maybe they are tired of how you treat them and know that saying something won't make a jot of difference?

pictish · 06/10/2021 19:24

@wigglerose

Leave them to it. Create some space and do something you enjoy.
Exactly.
FangsForTheMemory · 06/10/2021 19:26

Maybe they're an introvert who wants you to get out of their face?

icedcoffees · 06/10/2021 19:33

I don’t go around in such a mood that people ask if I’m ok but then say I’m fine when asked.

Sometimes people think I'm in a mood because I'm tired, or don't give them the answers they want to hear, lol.

If someone says they're fine, just accept it and leave them be.

SoundBar · 06/10/2021 19:49

Yeah save yourself the effort and take the comment at face value.

Why drag yourself down

Justmuddlingalong · 06/10/2021 19:53

What's the context? I'd react differently to a colleague at work than I would to DP.

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