DH and I both wfh, solid good companies (that you’ll all have heard of), we work for different companies. We’re both middle management id say, I earn low mid 30s and DH mid 40s. So DH is the pay grade above me. But a lot of the work I do is probably is working of a grade above at least, just sucks that it’s not recognised by my salary or banding. DH knows this. There was also a time that I earned over 10k more than DH but never put him down for it, encouraged him to put himself out there and leave a job he was ‘too good’ for but put him down, never. I do feel like should be more successful as I spent so long in education and so far it’s not paid off, truthfully I’m quite embarrassed about that. DH also knows that. I also took a year out on mat leave.
So here’s the AIBU part. MIL watches dc whilst we wfh but DH and I give her snacks and stuff.
Earlier in the week, DH were talking about how stacked we were at work and some pressure being on. Then he quipped well, ‘at my pay grade they expect results’ and later some comment about my job not being challenging (I think it is for a whole host of different reasons, it’s not quantum physics but it’s lots of processes and people issues).
This really upset me, made me feel like a real loser, not suggesting that anyone who earns similar or less than me is a loser or a failure, but it’s just how it was said felt like such a kick in the guts. I try really hard but it’s quite hard to progress where I am, but he knows how desperately I want to progress and I felt like it was being thrown back in my face.
Yabu- fair enough he earns more and is on a higher pay grade
Yanbu- dick comment