Party etiquette

[Schoolstuf]

Ive just found out that one of my class mates shares the same birthday we are planning a lovely party the weekend after but i would hate for classmates to have to choose. I know this mum to chat to but not very well as we only just started in September. I have her number and we on a group chat. Should i ask her what plans they have if any... Or just fork out a fortune only to find out no body is coming because i booked something the same day. Help

Yes I’d ask her.

Just ask.

Should i just bring it up in general conversation or private msg her

Just message her and ask. Our class has a group chat and parents always post on their before booking a party to make sure there are no clashes (mostly the 12 parents whose children have November birthdays!!)

I'd catch her in the playground & ask.

Better still share a party & halve the cost

I'd message her and just ask.

This just happened to my DDs best friend, her mum handed invites for her party and another child in her class had handed out invites 2 days before for a party at exactly the same time. Cost her quite a lot to try and change the time of her party.

Thanks yes ill do that because i never thought there could be more i could msg a save the date maybe.

Yep another one saying ask her- you could either message or catch her, whichever you feel more comfortable with.

Have you thought how about going halves on a party? If you’re both going to ask the same children.

Thanks for all advice im new at all this school stuff and new friends and playdates etc. 😩😂😂😂

Dd shares a birthday with some one in her class. Her mum actually approached me and suggested a joint birthday party next year which is great idea.

Luckily this year they are not clashing.

I would actually put it on the class watsap now, we have had a flurry of parties for October. If she is organising a party it will give her the heads up, I wouldn't bother asking if she has made plans, if she hasn't already asked the group its tough

@Schoolstuf

Thanks yes ill do that because i never thought there could be more i could msg a save the date maybe.

Just put on the group chat

xxxx is having a birthday party on the xxx. Would love you all to attend if you can. People will either say yes or no. A save the date to me would look like you are maybe going to plan something but not sure where ect so its not booked. You may not get a lot of commitment from that

Just message her and ask if she’s planning anything because you are on whatever date and don’t want to clash.

Just message her and ask
"Hi. I'm X's mum. I've realised our DC's birthdays are on the same day/very close together. I'm planning on organising a party for X on [date] and will be inviting [all/some/a few] of the class but before I do so just wanted to check if you were thinking of organising anything as I would hate for there to be a clash."

Only put it on the class chat if you’re inviting the whole class.