AIBU to leave baby overnight

[SecondSister33]

DC2 is 3.5months. DC1 is 3.5years. Tomorrow is my birthday, we don’t go out much and tomorrow is to be our first time leaving baby overnight. In laws have agreed to come down and stay so the kids don’t need to move all their things. However you guessed it DC2 has had a cold since Sunday, no temperature but running nose and sore throat, has been coughing. We all got covid tested as my dc1 had it first and passed it on. Negative. Phew.
So do we cancel the fancy suite and night out ? Or do I take this chance at peace. Please tell me to go and have fun or that I am being unreasonable and should stay here…

If you're double vaxxed and your parents are happy to take the risk then go for it. If you're not double vaxxed or your parents are particularly vulnerable I wouldn't personally

I would, if your in laws are still happy to come knowing that he’s under the weather then go for it.

If your in laws are happy I would 100% go for it

Only you and your in laws can say whether YABU or not. If DC2 is BFed for example, or has never met your in laws then you're likely to be being VU, but if they often have DC2 and they're all fine together that would be different.

Personally my kids would not be able to be left with anyone else at that age (BFed) and even older, but if you know that if your little one woke up that they wouldn't be screaming for you, then it's totally NU and you should enjoy it!

We are all double vaccinated but it’s not covid we have been tested. In laws are vaccinated too. Yeah MIL was down today and said ‘he’s fine’ she is happy to come down.. I just hate this when they are so small, I did speak to health visitor today who said there’s nothing we can do but it’s just the worry …

The kids know our in laws well, dc2 is formula fed. Dc1 is excited for a sleepover at her own house lol

In those circumstances I would not cancel.

If it's not covid and your DC1 relatively well, I wouldn't cancel. Any chance DC1 will be unsettled at night with this cold? My DS is quite needy at night and I know how he gets when he is a bit poorly so I would make my decision based on the night factor. Good luck x

At 3.5 months I wouldn't be leaving them when ill, but then I'm a worrier.

Sorry, 3.5 months and ill...I could not relax and enjoy myself for worrying.

Touching wood here but he’s a great sleeper and the cold hasn’t disturbed his sleep so far, a few coughs here and there but he settles himself. See how he goes tonight.
Third elephant me too, it’s probably the worry more than anything than the actual situation that is the problem here lol

In your situation I wouldn't cancel, I'm an awful cosleeping, attachment parenting toddler BFing lunatic and wish I could leave mine overnight!

Enjoy yourselves!