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AIBU?

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to be a hormotional, net-curtain-twitching, jealous, irritable busybody?

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BroccoliSpears · 07/12/2007 20:35

The answer is yes. Yes, I am being COMPLETELY unreasonable. I would give myself a kick in the chair if I could reach.

This week I have been working myself into a seethe because my neighbour has a bit of a cough, and the WHOLE world has stopped to help her out.

She has one small, fairly low-maintenance child who goes to nursery two days a week. Because she's got this cold, her husband has stayed home from work one one day to look after her. Her parents came to stay for the weekend to do all her housework and shopping and ironing. Her in-laws have come over to spend the day with her so that she doesn't have to look after her child alone for even 30 minutes. Her parents have been covering the times that her in-laws can't do. Now the child is going to stay with her parents for the weekend so she can rest.

She's not even that sick! She's up and dressed and calling me for chats, and last time we spoke she had just got home from buying a Christmas tree, loading it in the car, putting it up and decorating it! And she phones to tell me what an awful week she's having, and how it's relentless, just one thing after another for them, and instead of being a good friend and feeling sympathetic, I want to shriek that she doesn't know how lucky she is!

It is absolutely none of my business. It doesn't affect me in the slightest. It is nothing to do with me! But it's sooooo unfaaaaaair. I have no family support at all. DD thinks that "Granny and Grandad" mean a photo in a frame. And DP works hard and can't just take time off when I feel like an extra pair of hands about the house. I just manage when I'm ill! Even when I'm really ill! I'm a big green-eyed monster and it's not an attractive trait.

To make things worse, she often refers to how lucky I am to have such a positive outlook, and how brilliant I am for managing when things go wrong. She's right, I am lucky and I'd hate to be as lily-livered and wimpy as her. But right now I'm seething with irritation and envy. AIBU? Yes.

OP posts:
Curmudgeonlett · 07/12/2007 20:37

oooo you're a nice colour

Curmudgeonlett · 07/12/2007 20:38

all green and sparkly

like brocolli actually

Curmudgeonlett · 07/12/2007 20:38

broccoli

Kathyate6mincepies · 07/12/2007 20:38

'hormotional' - now there's a good word!

Gursky · 07/12/2007 20:39

Ah, a woman after my own heart.

I too am seething at something that is absollutely nothing to do with me - ILs planning to buy SILs flat so she can move in with her boyfriend without having to go through the trauma of, you know, selling her own flat on the open market. She is only a 29 year old professional after all. Bah. Absolutely none of my business, but can I let it go? Not on your nelly.

Just enjoy the righteous indignation!

MioMao · 07/12/2007 20:50

yes YABU of course, but I know exactly how you feel, I get like this all the time - about neighbours, family members, even old school friends I haven't seen for years now that I have joined bloody Facebook and am greeted with details of their exciting social lives every time I log in...

Hormotional is my new favourite word!

CarmenerryChristmas · 07/12/2007 20:56

Well you are being unreasonable without doubt but mainly just human.

justaboutinonepiece · 07/12/2007 20:59

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yaddayule · 07/12/2007 21:02

Completly unreasonable but i'm joining you in your indignation (next door neighbours DH decided to sell his company for squillions and now is a full time sahd meaning she's tra la la'ing around complaining he's under her feet all day ....looking after the kids while she's off getting manicure's blah blah blah

Gah !

deeeja · 08/12/2007 01:23

I am unreasonable too, but with good damn reason!
I haven't had an uninterrupted night's sleep in three years, and now I have insomnia at night coupled with falling asleep at odd moments during the day.
I have had a cough for five weeks, possibly have infection, but no-one is helping me with the kids! Have injured my fingers filling in blasted dla form, for a measley poxy amount, is it worth it? I now spend the entire day policing my ds to make sure that he doesn't hurt his baby brother, and now ds has started scratching me and biting to add to the headbutting I usually get. At themoment it doesn't seem so bad, because he is still little, but if I don't get help soon, this is going to become intolerable. Apparently there is nothing that can be done about it! Apparently I need to learn better parenting techniques and asd will magically disappear!
My in-laws only come round to offer these little jewels of wisdom and to watch and stare at ds, whch just upsets him, and he runs away and hide, which is when I usually go to 'look' for him, my time to hide too, who can blame him! They also have apparently found some magic elixir syrup to give me ds to cure him, fffffffffff! They gave it to him, so ds spent from 7pm to now bouncing around and going crazy in his room.
My family are feckin crap!
I am definately not unreasonable, the whole bloody world is!

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