Changing my surname.

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Basically, when I divorced I kept my marriage name as it was the same as my daughters. I'm re marrying again next year. My fiancé doesn't mind but my daughter is a bit upset that I might change my name.

Has anyone re married and kept their ex husband's name to keep it the same as their child's or AIBU?

I just kept my own name on marriage and gave the kids mine too to avoid all this.

I'd want to stay the same as my daughter. Don't change.

@WhereIsMumHiding3

How old is your daughter? It's up to you what you do with your name when you remarry. I can see why you would want to start afresh with new H2B

Tbh most people change their name when they remarry and it's just one of those things

You could keep your name same as your daughters just for school purposes and use your new married name elsewhere, so it isn't quite as obvious for DD.

I think I'd explain it that she "has Daddy's last name and now Mum and Dad aren't together and mum is getting married you will have a different last name to Dad now"

She's 13. DP has two kids , one who lives with us full time

@WeepySheepy

Just get rid of your last name like Cheryl did?

I'd use whatever name you feel you want to. Your daughter will adapt

I still call her 'Cheryl Cole'

@Jemsi

I think if it was your maiden name, that would be different. However I disagree with PP having changed your name for one marriage, I don’t think you can then have much grounds to be asking OH to change to that. If you like the name then just stick with it- but you haven’t actually said in the OP what you want to do? What’s your preference? Are you planning future children with new husband?

Definitely no future children! I like my surname from ex much better than potential new surname

I don't like my maiden name either for family issues .

I'd keep the same name as my children. Especially since it matters so much to your child. It can be difficult enough when parents divorce and remarry, so I'd do whatever made her most comfortable.

Demi Moore kept the name she acquired from her first marriage, even though she remarried. If it's good enough for her!

I changed my surname when I married XH. Had two DC. Kept that surname when we got divorced (was my name and I’d had it most of my adult life).
Then got married to DH. Considered just keeping my surname but DH not overly happy with that and so I double barrelled with his surname.
I’ve had the first part of my surname nearly as long as my maiden name now - I’m very used to it now

It sounds like you want to keep it so just do that?