If you are the younger partner in an age gap relationship...

[Stevearnottsbeard]

I have been with my husband for 13 years, married for 11. He is 13 years older than me, therefore I'm now the same age he was when we first got together. Now that I'm thinking about it, I at the age of 36 can't imagine ever being in a relationship with a 23 year old, I know everyone's different but it just seems like theyd be too young and childish. Obviously my husband didn't think so (thankfully) or maybe it's because I had my first child fairly young so they would be under 10 years older than my child. My husband didn't have any children when we met, we have them together.
So... Would you do the same age gap relationship again but if you were the older one?

I (female) was 30 when I got together with my partner (male) who was 21. If you'd told me I would get together with someone so young and I'd have freaked out. But honestly - with him it has never been an issue and I didn't even realise his age until we'd been seeing each other a few weeks.

So a lot of it is about the person, rather than their age.

We've been together 10 years now so it obviously doesn't matter.

@asofanearyou, actually you couldn't be further from the truth, I chased him!!! 😂 😂 😂
We have built a lovely life together and I love him very much but I just can't imagine myself with a 23 year old, but maybe as someone said its because boys mature slower than women!! 😂

[quote Stevearnottsbeard]@asofanearyou, actually you couldn't be further from the truth, I chased him!!! 😂 😂 😂
We have built a lovely life together and I love him very much but I just can't imagine myself with a 23 year old, but maybe as someone said its because boys mature slower than women!! 😂[/quote]
Glad to hear it! But still, in terms of the PP asking why there is angst about age gap relationships, I think that is why.

@aSofaNearYou yes I can see that.
I suppose once all parties are in their 20s and over it's not hugely relevant, if age alone is the issue. For me, it would only be an issue if it was an older senior employee trying it on with a younger, more easily swayed person.

I think what I was trying to say is that age alone shouldn't be an issue, once everyone is an adult and no LDs etc

It seems ok mid life but can cause issues in old age. Men tend to die younger than women so it would make sense for the man to be younger. Dh 3 years younger than me. Wouldn’t fancy an older man at all. If the woman is very young say under 25 and the man over 35 seems yes abit creepy and sinister to me. Like Charles and Diana.