To be cross with dd over cake?

[smartiejake]

DD1 (age 11) took a swiss roll to school today to make a chocolate log for food tech. She has a friend round for tea and so does dd2. She agreed to let them all have a piece of the cake for pudding then changed her mind. I said she couldn't change her mind and anyway I paid for the cake and all the ingredients to decorate it. ALso it is huge and will not last very long.
SHe had a huge tantrum, told me I was "out of order " and then said she was going to tell her dad!!!(Who was hiding upstairs on his pc but sometimes does side with her.)I am so cross with her. I entertain and feed her friends enlessly and the one who is here today is also staying for a sleepover tonight!
Was I out of order or should I have let her save the cake as she had decorated it this morning??

I wonder if the DD ever did "tell her Dad"

LOL at trawling archives for similar thread..that must've took some doing with all the dross thats posted in AIBU.

Is Smartiejake around tonight? We could ask her?

Well, according to my investigation she last posted on the 1st...
{taps pipe on teeth}

She still posts in that name doesn't she?

I note that several posters suggested at the time that the DD should be banned from having sleepovers as a punishment.
How do you think I should have punished my DD for her tantrum?
(And then I'll tell you what I actually did.)

God I need closure on the cake. I mean who got a slice in the end FGS?

Did you take her box off her and confiscate them whilst doing a good impersonation of your own mother "well if you can't play with them nicely you won't have any at all!"

I held them up in the air and told them all to 'be quiet because it is not up to you to decide who gets them - I make the decisions around here.
Then DD1 flounced into her room and slammed the door. I went off and read stories to the other two and when I came back she had pinned a notice to said door with a list of people who weren't allowed in - I was top of the list.
So I went in pretended nothing had happened and read her a story. DH thinks I am too soft. But she was tired and unhappy and I felt sorry for her.
She'll probably grow up to be a mass murderer now due to lax modern parenting.

Ah you sound a nice mum. Bet she knows how mean she was being anyway and sometimes the dwelling on it themselves is punishment enough I reckon.

11's a funny age, like you say hormones and all that.

That's it HM, she is normally very kind and thoughtful to her younger sisters so I am sure she was feeling bad enough herself about what she did.

I'm going to have to go to bed now. It shall be a restless night, wondering about smartiejakes cake, who had a slice, what happened to Dad hiding on the PC and if the DD was ever allowed a sleepover again.

So many unanswered questions

Oh goodness so it did - just shows how much notice of dates we take - my incident happened tonight, i wish it had happened in dec 07 i might have forgotten it then!!!! lol

Hairy - it seems ladyglencora is smartiejake...or have i got it all wrong?

No I am not. No offence to Smartiejake, of course.

Shitemum, just to clear things up, Alipop revived this old thread which was started by Smartiejake and I posted on it not noticing how old it was. Hairymuff and I then kept posting on it.

you should have told her to stop acting like an 11 year old

Oh, this child is now teenager, how time fly's

Good god just searched on my old name and found a cake controvosy! I actually have no recollection of this thread.

Can't even remember the cake in question or the sleepover and whether I banned her from it!

She is now 14 however still plays the "I will tell dad" card

( But it never works!)

have to say i am with the op's daughter - even though she is probably a mother herself by now

LOL... I would have scraped the entire cake into the bin in bad temper...
Amazing what we manage to forgive and forget.. comes with the job?

Cake is now long gone!

Read the whole thread it's nearly 4 years old!