To think he’s doing this for me to talk to him/react?

[Chloeee2001]

I ended things with a man in my work because he just wasn’t putting the effort in. We’ve been dating close to 8 months. we had a small argument over text and I just said I wanted it to be over.

The next time he saw me in work he tried to pretend nothing had happened... just tried to speak to me as normal. He must’ve then realised I was just keeping it professional and was actually wanting our situation to end.

Over 2 weeks in work together and just professional chatting. He did also put his hand on my lower back when he walked passed me the other day which I found

Anyway my boss asked me to message a team project rota to him (my assistant on this project) and I have suspicions that he has blocked me? Can no longer see his profile pic.

He’s done this before and said he “just removed his picture”. But he did this after an early argument in the relationship?

Anyway... he wants a reaction right? 2 weeks no speaking no messages and now he’s blocking me?

Realise this is childish but yeah

Essentially you’re colleagues he needs to maintain professionalism and work with you
You need to directly ask him has he blocked you at work,and for work purpose unblock you.
If he declines, delays, you escalate to your own boss

Work relationships are messy if it’s an acrimonious break up

Is the messaging through a work system or his private account? He can block you privately if he wants.

Are you saying he's your assistant? Then you can email him the rota, surely?

I agree he should keep his hands off. That, I'd warn him about. One strike.

Work relationships ending can be so tricky.

This is why you don’t shit where you eat. As for the rota then it’s on him if he’s missing messages because he’s blocked you. Just make sure you keep all evidence that you have sent him them

In my experience workplace couples, one moves to another team/post

Thanks for the replies

I think I was asking more like the intention behind him doing it? I’ve got to see him in work so can mention the rota, no big deal.

But blocking mid way through our working day when I ended the relationship over a week ago and no further drama.... seems dramatic

So is it blocking you on the work system or on a personal account?

If he's behaviour is getting in the way of work then I'd speak to him about it otherwise I wouldn't waste energy second guessing what he might have done or his motives. Leave him to it and persist with being professional , ignore everything else, it's playground behaviour.

Just email the rota to his work email. I really think you are overthinking things.

A good practice is to not date junior staff/subordinates/assistants as that can make you, the more senior person in a position of power, vulnerable to sexual harassment claims.

Yes, it's childish.
Use work systems to message him or go to him with the work.

Does your manager know you had a thing with him? If not, it could be awkward if this escalates.

but yes, this guy is trying to get attention.

Intention? He’s annoyed,hurt,embarrassed that he’s been slung. It’s not rocket science
So he’s acting out to annoy you, because he can, because he wants to