To say women let’s stop questioning ourselves

[Nursejackie1]

I have been a product of the patriarchy for absolute years and looking back i despair how we are conditioned to question our gut feelings, our choices around men, our reactions to abusive behaviours . The amount of threads on here where women are being blatantly mistreated and need assurance that it’s ok for us to not like it.
We do not even need a reason to leave someone if we just don’t want to be with them anymore. We can say no to sex whenever we want to whoever we want. No explanation needed. We can walk out in a date if we get a bad feeling. We can stop dating someone for whatever damn reason we like. We don’t have to laugh when men make sexist comments. We can report anything we want and not worry whether we look we can’t take a bit of “banter”. It is not selfish for women to choose what is best for them. We need to trust ourselves a hell of a lot more. It has taken far too many years for me to get to this point and I wish I’d have grown up in a society that values women’s opinions far more than this one dies. God I hope this does not sound in any way victim blaming… if anything I’m saying that women are victims of the conditioning of society and honestly whatever decisions we make ever does not and will never ever exuse abuse In in any way shape or form. The problem of male abuse is 100% on men.

It's a shame that women can't all feel the way you do when you get to 50. I absolutely don't take any shit now and have the confidence to take on any auld shite that a 'man' might try to dish out. I treat them with complete contempt if they deserve it. Cynical, hardened, contemptuous and sarcastic is how you have to be towards the stupid fuckers.

Totally with you Jackie. I hope and pray our daughters and nieces who were born in the late 1980s and after, can handle the (male dominated world) better than many of us women (born before the 1980s) did.

They have more rights and more protection now and are believed more (with the #metoo movement,) but I fear women and girls have a LONG way to go.

I know a brilliant (female) youtuber who is a great videogamer, and she has 5000 followers. She has at LEAST one message a week, telling her she only has so many followers because she is PRETTY... Couldn't be anything to do with her being a great videogamer.

Low level sexism, but it's there.........

I agree op. So many women on here and in real life second guessing their decisions and blaming themselves for the shit they receive from the men in their lives, it's maddening.