Words that other adults use that irritate you?

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Some examples that seem to irritate me (yes I know it’s totally irrational!).

First is someone calling the tumble dryer ‘the tumblee’ (written phonetically to explain how they pronounce it). Second is ‘homee’ rather than home. I know there is no reason for these to give me the rage but they do.

AIBU to feel irrationally annoyed? What words that other adults use give you the rage?

Why does the fact that a couple are "well to do" affect the language that's used with them? Would it be ok if they were "chavs"?

I agree it's not professional language but I can't see why apparent wealth is remotely relevant.

Ice cream with the emphasis on 'ice' - no, it's ice CREAM.

I know it's pedantry, but that's the point of the thread, right? On pain of being relegated to pedants' corner I have a bugbear like this with research.

So often even professional academics pronounce this word American-style, with the emphasis on the first syllable, as REEsearch.

No. I'm from the UK. It's reSEARCH.

I noticed the one upthread about ending a sentence with 'no?' and the reasons why that is so annoying.

First, it's usually said in a patronising context. Second, it's very rhetorical, intended to bulldoze the listener into agreeing with the speaker. That's not unlike the more tentative "isn't it?" tacked onto the end of a sentence, but this tends to be the speaker seeking affirmation. Linguists like Deborah Cameron claim this sort of language is far more often used by women. 'No?' is a lot more direct and assertive, but I agree with this who are annoyed by it that there are better ways of making a point.

Thirdly, and most importantly, it's almost always said in rising intonation. And that alone is enough to get you exterminated as far as I'm concerned.

Ice cream with the emphasis on 'ice' - no, it's ice CREAM

Yes! That bugs me too but it is now so widespread I was beginning to think I was the one in the wrong.

And "go toilet" - when I worked in schools, I used to say yes, they could go, but only if they said "go TO THE toilet."

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Belly - hate, hate it! What's wrong with 'stomach' or 'guts'. I say I have a stomach upset or my guts are playing up!

Stomach is fine but I'd much prefer someone to say "belly" than "guts". It just sounds grim. My guts are playing up is just a different way of saying I've got the shits and I just don't want to know

Just thought of one... At my workplace, if someone leaves, quite often people will say "so and so is no longer with us". More than once I've had to check if someone is still alive. Just say no longer with the organisation FFS.

Banter, bant - said by creeps.
Journey - a lie, you stayed at home.
Bless - patronising lie.
My days - irritating, especially when a person says it several times in a conversation.
Hubby - horrible.
Passed - where to? do you really believe in the afterlife?
There you go - I am a grumpy feminist atheist and say this too much when bored.

Guys to women. And hey at the start of an email.

Some of those would depend on the context for me. For example, I don't mind 'fur baby' for a puppy or kitten, but find it irritating when used of an adult pet. i don't mind 'dear', love', 'hun', etc, when used in a friendly way, but not when they're used by someone who is patronizing me, or worse, scolding me ('look, darling, you're wasting my time').

Perhaps related to the above. 'tough love' or 'I am saying/ doing this (harsh) thing out of love/caring/concern' except in very specific situations. Be nasty to me if you must, but don't mix it with real or pretended 'love'!

@HunterHearstHelmsley

Belly - hate, hate it! What's wrong with 'stomach' or 'guts'. I say I have a stomach upset or my guts are playing up!

Stomach is fine but I'd much prefer someone to say "belly" than "guts". It just sounds grim. My guts are playing up is just a different way of saying I've got the shits and I just don't want to know

I agree, I hate guts!! If my DH's stomach is troubling him he always says "my guts are in bulk" and it is THE most disgusting phrase!

"So..." at the start of a sentence, apropos of nothing. I've done it on Facebook post before and irritated the hell out of myself!

@MarieIVanArkleStinks

Ice cream with the emphasis on 'ice' - no, it's ice CREAM.

I know it's pedantry, but that's the point of the thread, right? On pain of being relegated to pedants' corner I have a bugbear like this with research.

So often even professional academics pronounce this word American-style, with the emphasis on the first syllable, as REEsearch.

No. I'm from the UK. It's reSEARCH.

I noticed the one upthread about ending a sentence with 'no?' and the reasons why that is so annoying.

First, it's usually said in a patronising context. Second, it's very rhetorical, intended to bulldoze the listener into agreeing with the speaker. That's not unlike the more tentative "isn't it?" tacked onto the end of a sentence, but this tends to be the speaker seeking affirmation. Linguists like Deborah Cameron claim this sort of language is far more often used by women. 'No?' is a lot more direct and assertive, but I agree with this who are annoyed by it that there are better ways of making a point.

Thirdly, and most importantly, it's almost always said in rising intonation. And that alone is enough to get you exterminated as far as I'm concerned.

I'm from the UK and have always said icecream and research.

I find "Apropos of nothing" to be one of the ugliest, most unnecessary and pretentious phrases ever.

Sorry. Not to anyone in particular. I was just reminded of it. Makes me cringe.

Linguists like Deborah Cameron claim this sort of language is far more often used by women.

Deborah Tannen

Famalam
Referring to your kids as "mini me"
Double jabbed
Hubby

I've repeated ice cream to myself so many times now...I'm not even sure how I say it??

So many people on here hate “hubby” as much as I do and yet in every day life I sometimes feel like everyone else uses it. But maybe it’s because it grates so much I notice if more…

@HereForThis

I find "Apropos of nothing" to be one of the ugliest, most unnecessary and pretentious phrases ever.

Sorry. Not to anyone in particular. I was just reminded of it. Makes me cringe.

None taken

Just stopping by this thread because I’ve remembered some dreadful people say it “marshmellow”.

Thanks Shiny
Didn't want you to think it was directed at you. It's just that reading it reminded me of how much it...[wait for it]...'sets my teeth on edge'.

(I know someone probably hates that phrase - I'm not fond of it either and this is my first time using it, but it fits right in today).

I am finding this thread very cathartic, but could someone tell me WTF does Famalam mean?

A lot of my pet hates have been mentioned already, but mine are -

Famalam, rellies or Ohana when referring to family
Holibobs
Staycation
Princess - wanting to be treated like a Princess or referring to a child as a Princess
Making memories - especially when referring to a baby who will have no recollection of it.
Love you lots like jellytots
Love you to the moon and back
Referring to a parent / child / partner as your “best friend”
Bestie for best friend
Dirty - when referring to food - “dirty fries” or a “dirty burger” when they are loaded with toppings like chilli or cheese, instantly puts me off ordering them.
Choccy biccies
Doggo / DDog
Hun
Hack instead of hint / tip

I'm sure there are many more!

@AnnieSnap

I am finding this thread very cathartic, but could someone tell me WTF does Famalam mean?

Family, apparently!

@soontobeamama Urhh, 🤮

People 'living their best life'. Oh just fucking exist without a fan fare like the rest of us do, you absolute tool.