Unfair-child maintenance?

[FedNlanders]

I currently get CMS for 2 of my children, I get a small amount of 20 per week for both.

I had a letter that my ex is claiming he has them 52 nights a year.

He doesn't. He has seen them 3 nights in a whole year.

It says if we disagree the decision maker will automatically assume they stay once a week?

HOW is that fair? He seems them once a year!

The system is beyond shit and we wonder why there are so many domestic assaults and murders- it's because families are pulling their hair out- SOMETHING MUST CHANGE

That’s ridiculous Op. just keep appealing and appealing as a pp says.

I agree that number of nights is quite a shit way of working things out anyway

My Dd has moved to staying with exh supposedly half the time, as it’s easier logistically now she’s at secondary to move her school stuff and large musical instruments one a week. However she doesn’t always stay there as much as she does on paper (she might come back in the middle of “his” weekend etc, or come here for dinner one night), I still pay for all school dinners, most uniform, all coats, shoes etc. Anything there’s only one of, I’ll have paid for.

The system is beyond shit and we wonder why there are so many domestic assaults and murders- it's because families are pulling their hair out- SOMETHING MUST CHANGE

Can you expand on this? Not quite sure why it would lead to domestic abuse and murder for cms to be rubbish.

Pure tension and frustration. Ex partners taking control and preventing people from having a life without them controlling part of it... then the spouse loses the plot- caused by the problems.. I bet if you dug into domestic assaults and murders between ex spouses you would find that one of them was extering power over the other financially still.. I know it's a sweeping generalisation but if you are still controlled by your ex because of their efforts to avoid their responsibilities you will understand how purely frustrating it is... It pushes some to the edge and makes them do unwise things.