Apologies if this is in the wrong place. I’m at the end of my tether & don’t know what to do.
Long story short, friend ( divorced) had an affair with a married man for several years. Eventually he said he’d left his wife and moved in with her, with just a few bags of stuff. Exactly a week later she came home from work to find him and his stuff gone, he’d gone back to his wife, claiming she was ill and needed him.
That was 18 months ago and since then he’s bombarded her with texts and last week appeared in her garden with power tools and just started cutting branches of an overhanging tree. She was in the middle of a business Zoom meeting so told him to go and not come to her house uninvited ever again. Since then he’s done nothing but text all hours.
I’ve told her to block his number but she won’t as she says she knows what the repercussions will be. She suspects he also goes to her house when she’s at work. She knows that at one time he was tracking her phone.
I know he’s the very jealous type, possessive of her and I cannot imagine his wife knows what is going on and puts up with this. When I asked my friend why she didn’t just block his number she became tearful and said she knows what will happen if she does, she has to just keep the peace (?)
Do I leave alone, none of my business?
Go to his house and tell him to do one? Tell his wife?
Any ideas and opinions welcome.
To me he has stalker-like behaviour and that’s never a good sign.