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AIBU about DH's 'new' family?

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TackyJewellery · 03/10/2021 13:20

NC for this as it could be identifying and I don't want it linked to my other posts.

DH's dad left when he was really small so it was always just him and his mum growing up. He was NC with his dad all the way through his childhood and teenage years until his mid-twenties when his dad got back in touch and they started to build a relationship.

When I met DH he had already been back in contact with his dad for a few years, but he still hadn't met his half siblings yet. I met DH's dad a couple of times at Christmas, etc, but he was never that involved in our lives, he would just meet DH on his own for a beer every couple of months.

About two years ago DH finally met all his half siblings and they really got on. I've met his brothers on a two occasions since. His sister is really good and makes a real effort with me and the DCs, but his dad and brothers are only interested in hanging out with DH.

Now they spend an awful lot of time together doing 'man' things. They've brought him into their lives but they don't seem that interested in us or his life IYSWIM? And I'm beginning to find it rude.

It's obviously a sensitive situation and I'm not really sure wha to do.

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WomanStanleyWoman · 03/10/2021 13:24

It’s a tough situation for them too. Your husband isn’t the only one who’s been presented with new family members. Maybe the brothers want time to get to know him at their own pace without it being about spending time with you as a couple?

Shoxfordian · 03/10/2021 13:25

They’re still getting to know him as their brother so you should give it all time

toocold54 · 03/10/2021 14:17

YABU it’s a new relationship that’s going to take time to build. Once they’re more comfortable around each other then you’ll be brought in too.

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