In thinking we had a better time partying than are children will have, due to the times we live in.

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I can't believe I have found the Hitman and Her from Discotheque Royale September 18 1992 because I was there.

the Show starts at 7 Minutes and 40 seconds.

I was two weeks from my 18th Birthday when I Wagged off my two last lessons in the Upper Sixth to meet a older friend. at three P.M we took the train from Euston to Piccadilly. The Saturday night Sunday Morning we stayed at my friends cousins flat. I lied to my mother saying that after my job had finished at 10 at Blockbuster I was going to stay at a friends house. The school reprimanded me severely , but I was not suspended (which I guess would happen today) my mother was just disappointed with me and issued no sanctions against me.

This particular night probably shaped my future as a year later I went to Manchester University, staying in Manchester/Cheshire for the next 22 years. Therefore identify more as a Northerner than Southerner !

Can your imagine the consequences and fear from school and ourselves

Maybe on the plus side their SPaG will be better than the previous generation if they spend more time in school.

Can you imagine the consequences if our children decided to do the same thing as this . The fact it would be very difficult for our children to do the same thing, perhaps has kept them more childish . DD 1 is coming up to 17 far more academic than I ever was . However, in terms of maturity and streetwise is more like I was when I was 15.

Bloody: To early for me hence my appalling "SPAG"...

Streetwise and mature aren't the same thing. Working hard at school is a sign of maturity, not bunking off.

I think this a lot. At 15 I was out clubbing in Camden. Must’ve got the night bus home in any case I’m still here. Social services would be called these days.

Different times. My young adult dc and their friends all seem to be working their socks off and saving as much as they can. They occasionally go clubbing but are aghast at the cost. They'd rather use their spare income for travel, concerts, experiences, cars etc. Their lives certainly aren't boring.

Do teens have Saturday jobs still? At 16 I was working 1 evening a week a Saturday and a Sunday

You went to University yet you don't know the difference between are and our.

I used to belong to a TV forum a few years ago where there was a lot of general chat too. A 17 year-old girl on there was in a panic once because she was dating a 21 year-old and had lied about her age… but her worry was ‘He wants to go the pub. How am I going to explain I can’t go?’ I just couldn’t compute it - I’d been going to the pub since I was 15, and was considered a late starter at school!

Of course I know the difference between our and are !

My Grammar, punctuation or spelling are of irrelevance regarding the post. This especially as this post was rushed, it is light-hearted and not a dissertation . Therefore, if you cannot say anything nice, Chris Whitty, or informative , just ignore the thread..

The school reprimanded me severely , but I was not suspended (which I guess would happen today) my mother was just disappointed with me and issued no sanctions against me

but you were weeks away from 18, an adult, what was your mum supposed to do? Ground you, send you to your room, ban your computer time?

YANBU.

It's also the kids having phones with cameras on them. We partied hard, with freedom and abandonment. No one was taking photos, much less filming.

I can't imagine how stifling it must be to be policed by the constant, unspoken threat of seeing a video of yourself doing something stupid or embarrassing doing the rounds on the internet.

Different times. My young adult dc and their friends all seem to be working their socks off and saving as much as they can. They occasionally go clubbing but are aghast at the cost. They'd rather use their spare income for travel, concerts, experiences, cars etc

clubbing doesn't have to be expensive, drink at home before you go which is what people did for years. Other than that I don't see how clubbing at your average club is any more expensive today than in the past unless you are going to the Cirque Le Soir or buying champagne.

*It's also the kids having phones with cameras on them. We partied hard, with freedom and abandonment. No one was taking photos, much less filming.

I can't imagine how stifling it must be to be policed by the constant, unspoken threat of seeing a video of yourself doing something stupid or embarrassing doing the rounds on the internet*

this I recall me and my friends getting into very bad states high on class drugs in bars, house parties, and clubs. This was the early 2000s, circa 01-05 era, and long before the whole social media and filming/photo craze so we were never worried about that. These days I can't imagine being able to relax doing all that stuff again in public places as I'd fear being filmed. We were 16 at the time too and the bars were local and filled with people from school etc so we all knew each other so you'd have much more chance of being filmed.

Cookford: Yes you are probably right there is little my mother could have done at the time because of my age.

However, in today's world for a start, I would have been unlikely to have been admitted to the Nightclub without false I.D . Secondly most School's and Sixth Form Colleges today would contact the parents immediately if a pupil failed to attend any lesson. This will happen even if the pupil is nearly 18. The pupil would also likely face similar sanctions from the school to what would be given to a 14 or 15 year old for the same offence. This possibly being a 1 day external exclusion and a Headteacher's after school Detention.

Some schools today have kittens just letting out the Lower Sixth for lunch often requiring parental permission.

Oh I totally agree. We used to go clubbing in central London from 16 onwards... getting night buses home and having a blast.

I for one am very grateful that times have moved on and underage sex (often with much older men), recreational teen drug taking and binge drinking are less socially acceptable now than they were 20/30 years ago.
I would much rather my dc took their academic studies seriously over them bunking off school and lying about where they are staying the night. You can still have a good time!

I’m with kinzarose here. I think back to some of the risky situations I found myself in and I don’t think it was a good think with the benefit of hindsight. It would have been much better if I hadn’t been able to get into pubs underage etc

I’m 50, a colleague a few years older than me was telling me last week about her 27 year old son. I said wistfully “I wish I was 27 again”; she said “I don’t, I wouldn’t get to do half the things I’ve done if I was only 27 now.” I think she has a point.

DD1 Is 17 in a couple of weeks and despite becoming "lippy" at home and school pushing boundaries. I told her she is just like I was when I was 14 thus highlighting how young kids are these days. DD1 has never been in proper "Pub" or Bar . The only Pubs she has been in are Gastro eating type of Pubs.

At 17 I would change into my work clothes straight from school on a Friday night and have a couple of Bacardi Breezer's before my shift at Blockbuster began.

Different times, hence when the kids do go to Universities at 18/19 they really are just like we were at 16.

@BloodyTinaNextdoorAgain @Bullsh You didn't get asked to many parties, did you.

Teenagers now seem a lot younger than my generation was. I was young for my age and considered a late starter but at sixteen I was off my box in pubs/clubs/random parties/raves all weekend every weekend. Got myself about via public transport and had a great time. Teenagers now seem unable or more likely reluctant to use public transport so rather than being free to roam they have to get lifts from parents, and seem generally more reliant on adults. Social media has done a lot to young people policing their own behaviour, we had the freedom of being a total shitshow one night and the worst thing was someone seeing you and taking the piss. I often wonder how this will effect them in future, letting off steam is such a healthy thing for young people and if they can’t do that in normal social situations how can they.

I agree op, part of it is definitely down to social media and anything stupid you do now haunting you forever, but part of it is just what seems to be an inability to just let go. I went to see a band at a famous gig venue just prior to Covid kicking off. I've seen well over a hundred bands there over the years, I used to loved getting sweaty in the mosh jumping around with everyone having a good dance, just in the moment, the band I went to see was a rock band who are very of the current moment. I went down to the front for a good dance, no one dancing. All of them (teenagers) stood holding their phones up filming. I'm not exaggerating when I say 90% of them stood there filming. I got tutted at for dancing. I felt sorry for the band, they were working their socks off. Completely no crowd atmosphere. It ruined my night.

Yanbu. I walked through some dangerous parts of my town, clubbed til 3am at 15 when I was with ‘friends’. There were riots back then. House parties with rooms with unsavoury types taking drugs.

Teenagers now seem a lot younger than my generation was

Absolutely and one of the results of this is that as parents we have to actively parent for much longer. DH is a seventies kid...he left home at 17. Kids nowadays are home for at least another decade