Squid games

[Poppetts1234]

I know a mum that allows her 9 year old to watch this.

I’m really interested to see how many parents are ok with this?

AIBU to be a bit shocked about this?

Yes I should mind my own business but I’d be really interested to hear others opinions

I doubt she operates with that level of guile - she'd be likely to tell a close friend who would be so shocked that they would tell someone. Happens all the time with bellend parents - had exactly this with a child whose mum let her watch Game of Thrones.

@whentheearthchanged

How would she know better than to mention it at school? That would indicate that she either knows herself it's wrong to have watched it, or that you've told her not to mention it. But hang on, you don't think there's anything wrong with her watching it do you? So if you don't have a problem with her watching it, and she's not affected by watching it, why would she know better than not to mention it? Why would it be any different than saying she's watched Peppa Pig?

@whentheearthchanged you’re attributing a whole host of complex adult thought processes on to an 8 year old child here. It gets worse the more you say. I actually feel sorry for your child. And I don’t say that to be nasty.

@lawofdistraction because of the reasons mentioned above. A teacher isn't going to report anything if my child mentions watching peppa pig. She is told not to say anything.

[quote lawofdistraction]@whentheearthchanged

How would she know better than to mention it at school? That would indicate that she either knows herself it's wrong to have watched it, or that you've told her not to mention it. But hang on, you don't think there's anything wrong with her watching it do you? So if you don't have a problem with her watching it, and she's not affected by watching it, why would she know better than not to mention it? Why would it be any different than saying she's watched Peppa Pig? [/quote]
Exactly.

It's either ok - So no worries about mentioning it at school as you're happy to tell them your reasons for allowing it, and deal with any comments / concerns.

or

It's not ok - So you're asking her to keep quiet as you don't want any backlash or repercussions from school / other parents.

She is told not to say anything.

There are so many things wrong with this statement that I don't know where to start. Why are you instructing your child to keep inappropriate secrets?

My 18yr old has just binge watched it and told me that he was surprised that it is 15 and not 18. I watched ep 1 and hated it - just too unpleasant, graphic and traumatic for me.

Those posters who are saying it's fine for children to watch as they know it's not real - that's not true at all. There would be no point of tv/films if while watching we were so aware that it's not real. Well made tv like Squid Game work as it feels completely real while watching it.

@Feenie

She is told not to say anything.

There are so many things wrong with this statement that I don't know where to start. Why are you instructing your child to keep inappropriate secrets?

Inappropriate secrets 🤣 don't be so ridiculous. As stated above, i ask her not to say anything for the reasons already set out up thread. I am fine with her being in the room whilst it's on but I know many adults are not. As this thread clearly shows.

@Feenie

She is told not to say anything.

There are so many things wrong with this statement that I don't know where to start. Why are you instructing your child to keep inappropriate secrets?

I know! It’s actually frightening that the poster can’t see this. All for the sake of a program that there is no benefit in her DD watching and the parent could easily make a decision for her not to.

I really hope this is not true and the poster is just being inflammatory to get a rise out of us.

Or you could just watch the program when your DD is in bed and then you don’t have to go to all these ridiculous lengths of telling her not to say anything.

You still haven’t answered the question what does she get out of watching it?

@Rollergirl11 I think it's quite frightening that you lot can't tolerate anyone having a different opinion than yourselves.

It's not ridiculous to point out that your actions will have consequences that you may not be prepared for.

@whentheearthchanged answer the question, how does watching Squid Game benefit her?

@Rollergirl11

Or you could just watch the program when your DD is in bed and then you don’t have to go to all these ridiculous lengths of telling her not to say anything.

You still haven’t answered the question what does she get out of watching it?

Well I just started watching it on Friday night. My daughter stays up till whenever she wants a Friday and Saturday night (as long as not up later than me) so I don't banish her to her room. I put it on not realising how graphic it was, and as I've already said, my daughter wasn't actively watching it, she was on the iPad whilst it was on. Any graphic/sexual bits I would fast forward through. So she's not getting anything from watching it since she is not watching it. However, had I allowed her to watch it, I still maintain that's my decision to make as her mother.

@Rollergirl11 I think it's quite frightening that you lot can't tolerate anyone having a different opinion than yourselves

Difference here is that rollergirl's opinions won't get her referred to the child protection team.

@Feenie

It's not ridiculous to point out that your actions will have consequences that you may not be prepared for.

What consequences though? No one is answering that.

@Feenie I don't really give a fuck what gets reported to the child protection team. My daughter's fine, appreciate the concern though.

Do you hear yourself? You acknowledge that it's considered an indicator of neglect but rather than stop you tell your child to keep it a secret??

Letting a young child watch highly inappropriate content isn't an "opinion". Telling your child to keep secrets isn't an "opinion". It's neglectful parenting.

If you are fast forwarding through bits, what's the actual point in you watching it yourself? You're missing plot, dialogue and nuance. Does your child go to bed at an appropriate time on school nights? Why can't you wait until then to watch it?

What consequences though? No one is answering that.

Getting scared,having nightmares/worry/anxiety, being made aware of or seeing things that aren't age appropriate from an emotional or brain/childhood development point of view , distorted world views about friendships/people in general, a sliding scale of boundaries . That's just some personal possible consequences. Then you have her actually discussing things with other children, and possible ramifications of that.

I’m always amazed by some of the content people let their small children watch. There are obviously far too many people who can’t make a sensible decision about what is appropriate or not. There is no justification for letting a 9yo watch Squid Game.

DD is 11 and we've watched Hunger Games and Stranger Things together. They are both 12a I think. Squid Game is a 15 and it's far scarier and more disturbing. It's chilling. I wouldn't want my mum to watch it let alone a child.

Well I just started watching it on Friday night. My daughter stays up till whenever she wants a Friday and Saturday night (as long as not up later than me) so I don't banish her to her room. I put it on not realising how graphic it was, and as I've already said, my daughter wasn't actively watching it, she was on the iPad whilst it was on. Any graphic/sexual bits I would fast forward through. So she's not getting anything from watching it since she is not watching it. However, had I allowed her to watch it, I still maintain that's my decision to make as her mother.

What's the point of watching it if you are fast forwarding through loads of it? Why don't you just watch it on a school night when she is in bed at a reasonable time?