Me and ExP had been together just over 5 years (Oct 2015). We had a little girl in March 2017. In May this year I decided to end things as he basically wasn't present in the relationship and did very little for our DD. I was carrying all the mental load and he refused to acknowledge or support me. I've had issues in the past with anxiety and depression and these are rearing their ugly head due to current circumstances. I am firm that my decision to end things is the right thing to do - we discussed things previously, nothing changed and his attitude and ability to turn things around to being someway my fault, being unreasonable or "mental" have made me a shell of the person I used to be.
Following telling him it was over he said he was not leaving as being 48 years old he was too old to go and live with his parents - he then made the offer that I move in with my parents with our daughter and he rents MY house from me. Er - No thanks.
I put my house on the market. It sells. He had mentioned in passing an ideation to buy it - he had no money to do so, so I accepted an offer. Not happy - tried to bully me, borrowed money from his parents - I still said No as I felt someone unlinked was a far better option and unlikely to cause issues during the process and a clean break was best and least confusing for our DD. He finally accepted this, but still refused to leave. He then puts an offer in on another house and it's accepted.
For the last 4 months we've been living together, initially sharing a bed (2 bed house) and I'm now currently on a z-bed under my DD's bed where I've been for about 3 months. Things have mostly been the same, I've been cleaning, washing and generally all the other things he refuses/fails to do.
I have found out through a slip up by the estate agent his house is completing today. He hasn't breathed a word to me about it. After our DD has gone to bed I've suggested we finally tell her what is happening (although I'm sure she's noticed something is awry). He's then told me that he is waiting until I move before going so we all move together. I've just said "No - you didn't leave before because you said you had nowhere to go - you've got somewhere to go now". He's now gone into a sulk and gone upstairs.
It's now left me wondering if I am actually being unreasonable?
I get he obviously doesn't want to look like he's leaving his daughter, but I reiterated to him he isn't - we're just not together.
The last few months have been hell for me and I just want my own space back.
It's clear that if I didn't find out accidentally, he wasn't going to tell me.
Sorry it's so long, but thoughts please? TIA x