Grieving for old nursery?

[Peridotty]

My 16month old DD is starting a new nursery today. It was a sudden change from her old one.

Am I normal to feel grief, sadness and anxiety after leaving the old one? I really liked one of hee teachers- she was very nice. I’m sad when I look at photos of her teachers and classmates hugging her goodbye. I feel waves of sadness when I hear them say they will miss her very much. I feel like I’m taking her away from her friends and her teachers. She was only there for 3 months, but it feels like a big chunk of her life.

I keep crying during the day when I think about it. I am full of nerves about starting the new one. Am I making the right choice? Will she like it? Will the teachers be nice?

Anyone else feel the same way about changing nurseries?

Oh bless you. Yes, I recognise this - I'm very reasonable and proportionate and resilient about my own stuff, but these sorts of losses for my children hit me hard sometimes. They form attachments and then they have to move on at some point - it's life, but it's hard to witness when it's your baby.

I think it's normal to feel this as a sort of grief (especially as it sounds like the move wasn't entirely expected/in your control?), but it should pass relatively quickly. I think it will as she settles in her new nursery and you see she is loved and happy there too.

Change can be difficult, but your reaction sounds a bit extreme, and you sound a bit anxious. Is there anything else going on that might be getting emotionally wrapped up with this?

Dc have lots of changes in their lives, they are largely OK. I am sure the new nursery will be used to helping dc to settle.

Agree this does sound a bit extreme - are the circumstances of the reason for moving affecting you?

I get it though. My DS’s (and my!) favourite key worker moved to a new nursery and I was gutted when I found out. I miss her, she was excellent. Change they we don’t create willingly can be tough.

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