To stick with my plans?

[roobearbear]

My best friend has been down in the dumps about being single lately.

Her and I have plans to go out to a bar tomorrow night which we'd been really looking forward to.

She asked me yesterday whether I'd mind if she cut the night short and ended at 8:30, as she'd been asked out on a date she was really excited about. So she'd do our drinks first but leave early and then meet this guy for a date.

I was a bit miffed but happy for her. I arranged with my boyfriend that I'd go to his house after the drinks instead, and we'd watch a movie and chill out. I didn't tell my friend this as it was irrelevant to her at the time.

Her date just got cancelled and she is really disappointed but said she was happy that we could now have our full night out as originally planned.

I'm loathe to cancel on my boyfriend. I would hate that the other way around.

However, I feel rather crappy to stay 'oh sorry, I made other plans for 8:30pm now. Good luck with your singleness and your lonely night....', to my friend.

What to do here????

Id tell her you made other plans , she is the one who changed the plans originally for some random guy. Why should you cancel on your boyfriend.

She cancelled for a guy and expected you to understand. I’d expect the same respect from her. Your boyfriend isn’t a handbag.

“Her date just got cancelled and she is really disappointed but said she was happy that we could now have our full night out as originally planned.”

Erm no. Life doesn’t work like that, she dropped you for a better offer, you made other plans. You can’t just drop your boyfriend now! That’s gonna get old fast! Just say, ahhh I can’t I’m going out with (insert bf name). Sorry about that, let’s catch up on X night.

Definitely stick with your plans. She will understand, and if she doesn't then I'd question if I want someone like that as a friend. Sounds harsh but life is too short to be surrounded by difficult to please people!

I can see this both ways - either
Really sorry but I made other plans let’s make a plan for next week ?
Or
Dp - I know this is a shame but x is struggling and has now been let down by her date. Remember she was really excited about it ? Do you mind if we rearrange tomorrow and Netflix and chill on Saturday instead. She’s a bit low at the moment.

My dp would mind at all rearranging a night in in those circs.
You’re ‘loathe’ to do this though so I’m assuming on balance you don’t think you kind of ‘need’ to do this for her so don’t worry about sticking to your arrangement if this is right.

Stick with your plans. Your friend was happy to cancel for a date, she has no right to be miffed you've now made alternative plans.

Tell her you made other plans and you’re not her second best option

I wouldn’t make more plans with her if I were you

She might not know you made plans? So just say sorry I made plans for after Xpm once you cut short the night.

Or your boyfriend might not mind if you ask him