House hunt gone wrong

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My cousin has been to view a flat tonight. Her and her DC are really keen.

The issue is... one of the neighbours is a guy who once came back to mine with his friend, and my cousin. Neither of them mentioned girlfriends until they were in and having a drink. Nothing happened between anyone. My cousin shared a taxi home with them and she got out first.

This guy sent her a few texts next day about a missing item. She checked with me if I had found it at mine. I didn’t. End of conversation, pretty much.

A few weeks later he messages her asking her what his last messages said, could she send it over. She recounted the exchange.

She then noticed his girlfriend had messaged her too, but deleted it.

She’s got no idea what was going on at their end and has heard nothing since. This was about two years ago now.

She’s asking me whether I think taking this flat is just too awkward. For me, it’s not, because she’s not done anything wrong and it's the first one she has been so keen on, but is it a potential shitstorm that’s best avoided?

Thanks

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No is take the flat. The fact some random bloke may or may not have cheated on his girlfriend I would class as irrelevant.

Thanks @Onlinedilema

I've messaged her this morning and said to at least go for a second viewing. No reply yet.

How odd and petty.

A few weeks later he messages her asking her what his last messages said, could she send it over. She recounted the exchange.

She then noticed his girlfriend had messaged her too, but deleted it.

Clearly the girlfriend had got his phone after he deleted his messages and was looking for proof he'd cheated.
But it was two years ago, I wouldn't let it worry me. She should go for the house.

How is it a potential shitstorm? What unnecessary drama Jesus

Why would she turn down a flat because of this?

If his girlfriend has trust issues then that’s up to them to sort out (if they’re even still together)
Nothing happened between any of you, it was 2 years ago.
It’s a non issue.

Total non event. Do not engage.

She wants absolutely no drama, but is quite an anxious person, so this is exactly the kind of thing to play on her mind.

But I think I've managed to persuade her to go for a second viewing, and I've said I will go with her. Hopefully from there I can convince her.

The guy is only the neighbour though, right? if it was actual potential flatmates then maybe not. But neighbours should be fine.

He might not even be with the same girlfriend anymore.

Seems odd to delete a message without reading it - how did she know who it was from?

No, she got a notification saying the girlfriend had deleted it before my cousin read it. She said they're still together.

But we'll see how it goes with the next viewing.

Sounds bizarre but not a reason not to live there.