AIBU to be aghast at my husband washing up without soap?

[Dufusdog1234]

I just found my husband doing the washing up with a sponge and water, no washing up liquid. I was a bit shocked and asked him to please use some soap. After I asked him if he's always done that and he said sometimes. He uses soap if something's greasy.... 🤢 AIBU to think this is yuck?

Yuk, I guess he doesn't wash his hands with soap either! Gross.

Mine seems to think it's acceptable to rinse under running water and not actually, you know, scrub food off. Drives me insane.

Can't imagine washing the dishes without washing up liquid

For cleaning a plate, cup or cutlery I use a scourer and hot water, soap isn't necessary. For pots and pans I'd soak some dishwasher liquid into the scourer.

On the subject of washing without soap, I watched a youtube video of a yachtsman who reckon tying your clothes to a rope and dragging them in the sea behind you was very effective. Until he lost all his underwear to a shark, somewhere between Antarctica and the Falklands.

YANBU! (And good use of the word 'aghast' btw )

God that is grim. The surfactants in the soap are there to dislodge dirt and bacteria - I'd feel sick if someone told me I was drinking from a mug that had just been rinsed. we really need a mumsnet vom emoji!

Well, just water isn't going to clean it so YA definitely NBU!

That's not washing, it's just getting things wet.

That’s not proper cleaning at all and indeed very yuck. Does he wash his clothes without detergent as well and does he think the inside of the toilet, the sink and bath/shower never need cleaning because of the water that passes trough it?

On the subject of washing without soap, I watched a youtube video of a yachtsman who reckon tying your clothes to a rope and dragging them in the sea behind you was very effective. Until he lost all his underwear to a shark, somewhere between Antarctica and the Falklands.

Hahahaha. I love it that a shark ate all his underwear 😂

For cleaning a plate, cup or cutlery I use a scourer and hot water, soap isn't necessary.

You don't think it's necessary to use soap to wash a cup or fork that has been inside someone's mouth?

I have also caught my husband doing this with cups and glasses in particular. Is just wrong!

YANBU. Although hot water alone will kill a lot of nasties, as most people don't use super hot water washing up liquid is needed. It's also needed to ensure the actual sponges etc stay bacteria-free and helps with the removal of grease etc.

Also air-drying is far preferable to using tea-towels.

I do use soap, but having lived in Malaysia and watched plates etc being washed in only a bucket of tepid water at food stalls (and never being ill) I think it’s probably unnecessary.

That's disgusting. Does he just rinse his hands with water when he's been to the toilet?

@Hugsgalore

I have also caught my husband doing this with cups and glasses in particular. Is just wrong!

Ugh, these are the worst items not to use soap on as people actually put their lips against them (unlike plates, bowls knives etc). The rims would be covered with lip balm, general mouth junk and bacteria

Apparently common amongst students, it can cause real problems. An accommodation manager told me that at Uni & advised always to use washing up liquid.

that's not washing, that's wetting.