A few months ago, I met a man who I think is gorgeous, very talented and ambitious. He is a music producer and also in a music duo which is becoming very big, doing all the biggest festivals etc. I of course find this very attractive having always been the more ambitious of my relationships.
But AIBU to think I'm wasting my time and to just forget it?
Basically, we will talk for a while, I understand he's busy with his career and so am I. This seems to work quite well. However, he will suddenly go quiet, and become very anxious about things. He has quite bad anxiety (and is often in the background of the duo due to this), and will suddenly stop replying to messages, and will take 'social media breaks' because he gets overwhelmed.
He will message me to tell me this, so it's not as if I'm being ghosted, and then things will pick back up again.
But he will then start saying things like: "I realise I do this and it's on me, and something I'm working on. I don't want you waiting around or making you feel bad".
I know that he does have feelings for me, and I for him - but of course the lack of communication and never knowing whether he's going to go hot and cold is a bit confusing. I give him the benefit of the doubt due to his mental health but it is frustrating.
For background, I think all of this started after he was cheated on in a 10-year relationship before this.
But I think I'm probably wasting my time - is my feeling right here?