Do I stay or do I go??

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I’ve been offered a new job - it’s a plum role in one of the top firms in the city I live. I’m delighted to have been offered.
Here’s my dilemma - it’s longer hours with no working from home opportunity (currently I WFH two days a week). It’s more high profile and stressful but current job is a bit boring. It’s better money but hasn’t blown me away.

My biggest issue in my current role is my boss, he’s a controlling, grumpy bully with a charming side but I’m worried I’d be stepping from the frying pan into the fire.

Any words of wisdom or advice on how I could use this as leverage in current role?

TIA

I left a job with a grumpy bully boss in February. I left to go to less money and more hours - both of which I've managed to re-negotiate since. I'm very happy where I am now. I would say for me the grumpy bully boss is the deal breaker. Once I turned 50 my tolerance for that disappeared.

However, I think if you like the WFH part that might be the bigger dilemma for you. What's your gut telling you ?

From what you've said, I would take the new job - unless wfh is very important to you.

I assume you met your new boss during the recruitment process, what vibe did you get? Did you meet any of your new team?

I would take the new job. You can always stay for 1-2 years then leverage the higher profile and use it to go find a job elsewhere with better hours/WFH and probably get more money, further in your career. Just means sacrificing that year or 2.

It’s better money but hasn’t blown me away

Can you negotiate more? for the more stress/hours/loss.of WFH I'd want a big jump in salary

I was leaning towards staying where I am but these comments are very interesting. WFH isn’t a massive thing, it’s nice but not essential.
I got a really good vibe from possible new boss, I really liked his ethos and what he’s achieved.
It’s a sales environment but my role wouldn’t be, I worry about those big sales egos. I’m almost 50 and don’t want to work in an unpleasant atmosphere, although what I currently have can be when the boss isn’t good.

Remind yourself why you actively started looking for a new job in the first place. If the new job meets the criteria you set out to achieve, go for it.

I would go, I have had some difficult events in my personal life in the last few years and my boss and wider team have been very supportive.
It makes a huge difference.
For me the people you work with have a much bigger influence on your life than the work you are doing.
Obviously try and negotiate more money first, if new boss is in sales they will be expecting negotiation.

The problem is your potential new boss would have been on best behaviour in your meeting and so you may not get a true picture. Do you know anyone that works there? There is nothing worse than an awful boss. I left my previous job after my old boss who has narcissistic traits made the working environment unbearable.

In that case I'd take it.

It doesn't have to be either of those choices, you could apply for other jobs

Its awful managing a boss with mood swings. But if you work from home is it tolerable until you find the right fit?