TO FEEL NAFFED OFF.....

[wheresmymincepieandmilkmumofdj]

RIGHT HERES MY SITU,

DROPPED DS1 AT NURSERY TODAY

DS1 BEST FRIEND WAS BEING DROPPED OFF AT THE SAME TIME

oops sorry caps

Anyway, the best friend does not look well

Childs mother says best friend has been being sick last night and again this morning even 5 mins before nursery in the car

best friend is now away off with my son and all the other having settled right in as normal

I stand there in desbelief thinking surely you ARE kidding? Im sure my face would have given me away

teacher says to other mother is said child likely to be sick here? mother says oh no no

this mother is a stay at home mother as am i at the mo

I say half sarcastically oh well if ds1 gets ill ill know where its come from then, thanks

(this was the best i could do i am crap at being assertive and especially with no notice - i know its pathetic please be kind to me)

am i being unreasonable to feel completely naffed off at the ds1 best friends mother (i only know her to talk to outside really not in any depth atall) and the teacher?????

i am not impressed and am mad at myself for not having more gusto and to be able to say things straight at the time

perspective and advice please as i could technically say something tomorrow if needs be....

thanks xx

If she had to work I can understand her taking a sick child but no way if she is a SAHM.

Kids have to get things but you would have thought she would want to have her child at home with her while he is ill.

Doesn't the nursery has a policy not to allow children to go within 24hours of vomitting and/or diahorea? Ours does.

Ours has that policy too ComeOVeneer.

I would be really angry about that. No excuse if she doesn't work. I wouldn't want my children anywhere but with me when they're ill.

she is bring completely thoughtless, taking her child to nursery. Our nursery has a policy of waiting at least 24hours after any bout of vomitting and/or diahorrea. Perhaps you should take a look at your nursery's policy tomorrow, or ask. in earshot of teh other mother.

Poor poor child. Even if he/she wasn't feeling ill anymore, surely he/she'd be feeling really tired and drained from vomiting.

I know it can be a pain when you've got your day planned (even SAHMs have things to do, you know! ) but that kid was obviously still ill.

The nursery teacher should have said that the child couldn't come in.

My DS has developed conjunctivitis today. He's not going to nursery tomorrow if he's still red eyed and producing matter. It p*sses me off because I've got shed loads of stuff to do that I can't really do with him about.

I'll try the breastmilk treatment on his eye. Heard it's a wonder cure! Any other tips?

wheresmymincepieandmilkmumofdj i suggest that you print and give this to your Nursery, www.hpa.org.uk/infections/topics_az/schools/schools_guidelines_2006.pdfI cant believe theyy let a sick child in!

I thought all schools and nurseries had this 24 hour policy - I've had almost the exact same thing happen to me and it's absolutely appauling - stay at home parent or not you do not send your child to school sick.

I didn't realise this was you, mumofdj!

the D&V bug going around is so contagious, the whole nursery will prob have it now.

YANBU surprised the nursery let her in tbh. None of the nurseries my kids have been at would have.

Im well naffed off on your behalf. My LO has missed two weeks of nursery with diahorrea, despite us being convinced that it is now a lactose intolerance. They simply will not let her go, and I am obviously too honest. And I work. But haven't been this fortnight...

oh no has your cover been blown?

I meant didn't realise who had posted the OP, I'm not from the same nursery or anything

my nusery as other nurserys did i thought if child has been sick or had diarrhea they need to be clear for 24 hrs before returning

my ds just xcaught gastric flu from nursery and i had him at home ill for 8 days he awas clear for 24 hrs but did not send him back till following week to be sure

yanbu a cold id take him not much you can do about catching a cold but if he is being sick i would not send him

Curious as to why it's ok for a working parent to take a sick child to nursery?

YANBU by the way

I sent my DS in yesterday morning after having loose poos the morning before, but he is little, teething and I thought his loose nappies were teeth related as he was perfectly happy and bouncy otherwise. They called and sent him home because they apparently were not teeth related

BUT - he had been happy, he hadn't pooed since about 1.30pm the day before and I genuinely thought it was teeth.

Had he been vomiting he would have been at home no matter how much I needed the time to get on with things.

Not sure if any of that is relevant... think I'm just feeling guilty about my apparently non-teething child spreadin his germs.

Don't worry flame I thought ds was teething, turned out to be tonsillitus

Oh, I did that too I thought it was teeth n a bit of a cold... then he got this freaky rash down his thumb spreading across his body - turned out to be a strep rash from his infected tonsils ! In my defence though, I had taken him to the doctor who missed it

thanks guys i had to go out but im back now, sound advice thanksxx back in a min

I have decided not to say anything tomorrow but wait to see if any of the other children, espec my ds1 becomes ill anad then discuss it privately with the nursery teacher as ours is a teeny village school (6 in his class at most, often less) so i want to pick my battles wisely but watch this space i might be back for more advice!!!

thanks again ladies for taking the time to post

i needed to vent....

isnt mumsnet fab!