Babies growing up

[Newmama93]

What is the point of having kids if they grow up and apart from you anyways, what’s the point of putting endless hours and wakeless nights into loving and nurturing them if they grow up to move across the state and hardly call you .. you’re once their world and then they hardly give a shit about you!

People keep talking about children going NC and there being a reason for this and whilst that’s probably true I do wonder about those situations where the children aren’t NC but have very little time for their parents eg my uncle who only visits his elderly mother 2-3 times a year despite only living 30 mins away because he’s too “busy” with his hobbies.

@Purplelemon7

People keep talking about children going NC and there being a reason for this and whilst that’s probably true I do wonder about those situations where the children aren’t NC but have very little time for their parents eg my uncle who only visits his elderly mother 2-3 times a year despite only living 30 mins away because he’s too “busy” with his hobbies.

I bet there is a reason. You just aren’t privy to it.

@Ozanj some (many?) people are selfish and don’t appreciate what their parents have done for them and our society puts a lot of emphasis on individual happiness over the happiness off others

Why are you thinking this is going to happen? What is your relationship with your own parents like? Do you contact them regularly?

I think of it as "they're not yours, you only borrow them for a bit".

@HeyFloof

My lovely, I think this thread, coupled with yesterday's, would probably indicate that you might be struggling.

Your baby is tiny, it is hard and exhausting and relentless at this age. But he is a joy. And he will adore you as his Mum forever, and he's got a good few years of being attached to your thigh yet.

I would gently suggest that you perhaps speak to your partner, your GP or health visitor. It's absolutely normal to feel like this, but it does require some attention.

❤️

Yes agree to trying to get some support. Noticed your username from yesterday too, think calling the GP is a good first step.

I don’t have a good relationship with my dad but am super close to my mum. I’ve been so down on how I’m my sons world now and he’s mine but he could just leave and move or decide later he doesn’t want contact or hardly call, it’s a hard pill to swallow when I’ve given up everything to have him. Anyway thanks so so much ladies, I think I’ll chat to the GP.

Well just think about how you feel about your mum. That’s probably how he is going to feel about you when he is your age!

Aw OP you're having one of those moments! Becoming a mum for the first time throws up some really strong and weird emotions.

You start with 'what if's' and end up catastrophising about just about any and every situation known to man which could somehow involve your child.

It does settle down. Although sometimes even when they're 9/10/11 + you get the odd deep in the night panics.

Well - i do anyway!

Good idea to chat to your GP if it's affecting you badly. Intrusive thoughts ect.