To be upset about this

[Cloudbow]

I've had a group of friends for years. We've done group trips away, gone to events and usually see each other regularly. Over lock down I had a baby, and I haven't managed to see everyone as much as usual and have been feeling a bit out of touch sometimes.

One of the group is booking tickets to an event. It's for something I have a slight interest in but not as much as some of the others. Not everyone from the group has been invited, including me. Lots have though, and it's something I would have gone to if I had been.

I know it's stupid to get upset about this, but I am and I just feel a bit disappointed and like I don't belong any more.

If they’re long standing friends can’t you just ask
If you can go?

As its just a few of them rather than the whole group it sounds fine. You're not being excluded.

If you want to go just ask them.

Sounds like they concluded you’d not be interested. Perhaps you previously said you weren’t too keen on whatever it is. And they paid attention and remembered what you said.

It would have been nice to be asked but it saves you having to say no if you’re not keen on whatever it is right enough.

I’d be asking why they didn’t ask ONLY if you really want to go. No lint in bringing it up if you don’t.

I don’t think it’s a slight or anything.

Point not lint.

I haven't voted, as, if you feel upset, then that is how you feel, you aren't unreasonable to feel upset, but OTOH, it doesn't sound like something worth getting worked up about, particularly as you say you wouldn't be that bothered by it anyway.

Friendships evolve. Friendship groups evolve even more. The pandemic has made things difficult and a lot of people have changed a bit through that. Add in a really lifechanging event like having a baby, and sometimes things move on.

I don't know what the event is, but often, it really is only possible or worth the hassle to get tickets for a couple of people to go to things, or, at least, the smaller the group the easier it is. Once you start having to accommodate more and more people, it just becomes a hassle. For example, I like theatre, but I rarely go in a big group as everyone ends up compromising ((the seats you ant, the day you go, the price you are willing to pay, etc etc), so I prefer to go either on my own or with one or two people, or it becomes a chore. More so if working around people who need to make sure someone is there to look after the baby.
It isn't a slight, but the nature of your friendship is likely to change once you are a parent.

@LateDecemberBackInLowB12

As its just a few of them rather than the whole group it sounds fine. You're not being excluded.

If you want to go just ask them.

Totally agree ,

Just say how you feel.

Go if you want to go .