AIBU at being annoyed at having to spend Christmas with my sister's knuckle- dragging boyfriend.

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Im just having whinge and wanting your light hearted suggestions for how to get through Christmas be as creative as you like.
My sister lives abroad and I haven't seen her for a few months we get on better now we are older. Her boyfriend is an idiot sexist gaming bore.....anyway they have decided they will be coming for Christmas this year which means Christmas day at mine. I was looking forward to a family Christmas without him there but he is coming and I hate him. We finally found a house bugger than our tiny terraced that will beblarge enough and he ruins it by just being there.
Do I get so pissed that I won't be able to stand up any suggestions gratefully recieved as funny as you like I need a laugh.

I agree with @Bloodymess

Life’s too short.

Either that or turn their room into a gaming den and you won’t see him

Tell your sister he isn't invited, due to being an idiot sexist gaming bore.

I think it's perfectly reasonable to just not invite him. However, if you really must include him then I would try and view him as a form of entertainment. He sounds like a ridiculous caricature, so maybe try and see the humour in the situation and all the amusing anecdotes you'll get out of it.

Honestly, I dream of having in-laws like this. Mine are nice people, but socially awkward and completely unable to make conversation. I'd love it if they actually gave me something to be horrified by

If I have to do should you

I wouldn't have them for Christmas! Just say you're planning a family Christmas on your own but you can catch up for dinner at a restaurant one night while they're here?

Can you set up a game of BIL Bingo? You have enough time to plan this properly with homemade bingo cards etc. The first person to get a line gets out of any cleaning up on Boxing day. Instead of shouting bingo you can shout Bigot.

Is your sister coming to stay with you or other family/hotel? If she's not staying with you then why have you invited her for Christmas Day? I wouldn't have either of them. She's in a relationship with a wanker but you certainly don't have to tolerate him.

@LakieLady

I've got to an age where I no longer feel the need to tolerate dreadful people out of politeness.

I have a very unpleasant BIL: sexist, racist, homophobic, ignoramus, tax-dodging millionaire, who bullies his wife. I avoid him as much as possible, often making excuses not to go to family events that he's going to be at, and giving him a wide berth when we're both present. And I call him out on every single piece of prejudiced shite he comes out with.

But I wouldn't have him in my house. Sexists and racists aren't welcome here, neither are bullies. If I had a sibling with a BF like that, I'd explain why, and leave it up to them if they preferred to come alone or stay away.

Completely agree.

It’s Christmas, why would you want it ruined by hosting such a horrible man?
Tell your sister she is welcome but her horrible boyfriend isn’t.

They are not staying with us but he is horrible. My sisterehas had a miserable few years of domestic violence at the hands of previous boyfriend. She is pretty vulnerable and is not making very good life choices (including him) at the moment. She has very low self esteem and sees the fact that she has found a man who is not violent as an upgrade. He isn't good enough for her but to be honest for her ill have to hunker down and cope. I like the idea of bigot bingo and turning one room into a gaming room.

Lol if this were my bil I’d say give him doubles instead of singles so he passes out in a corner somewhere before dinner.

My BiL has a really horrible friend who I've had to spend a few Christmases with.
I've just smiled, made polite conversation, drank wine (very much needed lol) and then breathed a big old sigh of relief when she eventually left! It's tough but I just kept thinking it's just a meal, I'll get through it!