Background in a nutshell: I work a low paid job with school hours, basically do all the childcare/house related stuff but contribute very little financially. Husband earns far more than I do but subsequently is never at home on weekends and we have very little family time. We make it work and always have done.
Up until today we have had an amount of help each month which has taken the pressure off, day to day living costs, enabled me to help with some of the bills etc but this has now stopped.
Upon having a discussion about what we will do husband has basically told me to find a new job. There are a few issues around just finding a new job, childcare costs in the school holidays, unable to work evenings and weekends again due to childcare, dd is young enough to feel the impact of me not being here as much as I am now. Plus I am skilled at the job I do, I love my job, I have the opportunity to progress over the next few years and earn more but in husbands eyes that still isn't earning enough.
His argument is he doesn't want the sole financial burden (even though that is how it has always been, I have always done the same job since we met) and that I am being selfish. My argument is that it will impact dd too much and he will still continue to work the same hours regardless. He's making me feel like a spoilt housewife who does nothing and I need some perspective as to whether or not I am this selfish horrible person he's making me feel like I am.
In reality I feel like because he has the financial burden I am far more relaxed about things, he can drop everything in an instant and just go out or go away for a few days where I have to plan months in advance. Rambling now I'll stop!