To feel frustrated with women who act 'saintly'

[LemonSherbetFancies]

I know someone who by all accounts isn't very nice. She can be rude, sneaky and manipulative. However, she has a high profile husband (kind of) and she is adored by all his team. She has an amazing job, gorgeous kids, does stuff for charity but is very 'look what I'm doing' and it just feels like she sees herself as a saintly person and everyone around her does as well.
Aibu to think nobody is perfect, that being humble goes a long way and fawning over someone is kind of ridiculous?

@inkhopper
OP perceives her as those things, but says the majority of other people really like her. I’m trusting the majority

@EmbarrassingAdmissions, and just to clarify, I've never used the name out loud.
I think we're all allowed to say what we want in our heads - or is that only you?

@Toomuchtooyoung01

What the fuck does Carol keep saying to keep getting deleted?!

I know right?!

@RandomCatGenerator, several things which I'm sure you understand I can't repeat here - but all either provocative, inappropriate, or both!

She's human.

Maybe she even gives people mean nicknames or talks about them behind their backs.

People are all a mixture of things. I have no issue with people spouting about charity work. It helps people who work for non-profits (me for most of my career) help people and get paid. Better than doing nothing.

@MrsTerryPratchett, but if they're doing that and are still a horrible person the rest of the time, it doesn't make them a better person than the rest of us, surely? (and it's all off the 'look at me' crap that pisses people off).
I'm pleased for you that you see the benefits of people like this - but at the same time they hold themselves up as some kind of virtuous gods on their SM.
FWIW, I have donated very generously to two separate cancer charities recently, but I haven't made a song and dance about it in social media as that's not my style.

You mean like Amanda from Motherland?

I know she's a caricature but I bet women like her actually exist.

I'm pleased for you that you see the benefits of people like this - but at the same time they hold themselves up as some kind of virtuous gods on their SM.

All the #blessed parents on SM are struggling. All the #thankful couples are divorcing. All the people on my SM with healthy meals are chubby and the woman who has workouts on there 24/7 has had so much plastic surgery she's bionic. I call it the Posh Spice Theory. If you're saying it, it's not true.

In the great scheme of things, either snooze them and move on or just laugh. I'm feeling philosophical today

Yes, we all know about her charity work, huge song and dance out of it.
I do not find her genuine and agree with all @mineofuselessinformation says.

Honestly, what's it to you? Leave her be and give her a wide berth if you don't like her. I think most people can see through people that are fake but don't think it's worth spending their energy on letting on that they've noticed.

Or perhaps that's just me

If she is so rude etc, why is your main problem with her that she volunteers and is nice at times. Surely the problem is the rudeness.

It sounds like it's the hypocrisy that is bothering you, and YANBU about that. But ultimately, it's not healthy to judge or focus on others like this and much better to focus on how you can be a better person and help other people without wanting any recognition for it. That will make you a much happier person than feeling resentful about her being praised on social media while actually being not a very nice person.

Well, it’s pretty normal for some people to like an individual and others not to…?