to be upset at DH calling me 'frigid'?

[teuch]

It is an ongoing issue...he has a much greater drive than I do and generally when I say no it turns into a massive row.

I know that we could both do more to try and improve the situation but I am so tired of my bed being a battleground.

I also feel really shocked that DH thinks it is okay to use terms like 'frigid' and 'lazy' as I think these are cruel.

AIBU?

No. YANBU. Not entirely sure how he thinks that bandying words like that about is actually going to help you feel more open and loving to him.

Well....

has he considered that you have to have a reason to look forward to sex? And that what he does in bed with you, is going to figure largely in that reason?

Yanbu. He is bullying you in a crude and horrible way.

He is being cruel, he knows those words will upset you.
He would be better off trying to have a conversation with you about it. Trying to work out how you feel, what puts you off, when you are most likely to be up for it and when the least and what changes you can both make to resolve your differences.

yanbu
tell him he's crap at it and thats why you cant be arsed
nasty, but so what

thanks for responses - I honestly couldn't tell whether I was over-reacting. I am just sad that I have let me raltionship get to the point where DH thinks that this is okay...

IMO, he should not call you frigid - does he want to be termed a "sex maniac" or "rapist" in return????? Rather disrespectful IMO. He needs to understand that his sex drive is higher than yours and that a compromise is necessary - what you want is just as important as what he wants.

He's cting like a child. Lashing out his frustrations because he didn't get what he wanted. And, of course, as others have already pointed out this is a self defeating approach.

Why would you want to sleep with someone who can't respect your feelings? He is the one putting a chill in the air.

You are not totally responsible for the relationship. It is a joint venture.