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To ask would you complain or just let it go?

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xgt45 · 25/09/2021 22:24

Nc for this.

I was expecting a fair few parcels today from the same store and I received a phone call at around 3pm from a mobile number letting me know the delivery driver was 30 minutes away.

Parcel was delivered on time and the delivery driver was very friendly, bubbly, and we chatted about the business with petrol, covid the weather etc, the usual small talk, while he unloaded my parcels and after he took the photo of parcels in my porch he promptly left and that was that.

About an hour later I get a text from the same mobile number that contacted me about the delivery time and it said something along the lines of "Hey mate, running late, last two deliveries and I'm done, see you later" obviously texted the wrong number so sent a quick reply pointing this out to the delivery man. My exact words were "Wrong number" nothing more.

I got a reply back almost instantly apologising and saying that text was meant for his friend and that they had plans that evening and he couldn't wait for a pint after a long shift and then asked if I had plans that evening. Chose to ignore this message because I had no interest in what he was up to or divulging my plans either.

About 30 minutes later I received another text from the same number again asking me if I was ok and if he was bothering me, replied with just a "yes, you're bothering me" and left it at that.

I received one more text after saying "sorry, won't text again" and I've not replied and neither has he. Last text was at around 6.20pm and I honestly don't expect to hear from him again.

I'm not sure if I should be reporting it to the company or just putting it down to him thinking I opened up a conversation by relying the first time saying wrong number and he was just trying to be polite and having bad judgement on his part. He wasn't suggestive, flirtatious or strange while he dropped off my parcels. Don't really want to make a mountain out of a molehill.

So I don't drip read thought I'd point out that I'm early 30s, he seemed to be around the same age and I don't really want to name the delivery company as it could be outing or a news article picks it up.

OP posts:
gardeninggirl68 · 25/09/2021 22:28

what would you be reporting him for? just leave it

DollyPartBaked · 25/09/2021 22:29

I'd leave it

Finfintytint · 25/09/2021 22:31

Just ignore him. He was chancing it and you told him you weren’t interested. That’ll be the end of it.

Sparklingbrook · 25/09/2021 22:32

Don't really want to make a mountain out of a molehill

Complaining would be doing exactly that.

Theworldishard · 25/09/2021 22:33

It is unprofessional imo. My sister once had a postman really into her and that was hard as he was there every day. She was in her 20s and he 50s. She never complained and pretended she was seeing some (she lived alone). He swapped areas after that.

Suzysunflower · 25/09/2021 22:33

That is really unprofessional and I'd suspect the 'wrong' message was sent to you on purpose to elicit some kind of response. I'd report it.

Blanketsnpamphlets · 25/09/2021 22:35

I wouldn’t waste your time reporting as he’ll just say something like he was making small chat to smooth m after accidentally texting. He’ll likely be self-employed with them not an employee and they’re not going to take him off the books for this.

It’s not ideal but he tried you were clear in your no and he’s not bothered you since.

LocalHobo · 25/09/2021 22:38

Do you class this as harassment? I don't.

thefourgp · 25/09/2021 22:45

It’s unprofessional but I’d just leave unless he makes contact again. He should have just knocked on your door and asked you out instead of playing games by text message.

Frazzledmummy123 · 25/09/2021 22:45

I would only complain if you receive anything else from him. While he did act a little unprofessional, he did stop texting and didn't really say anything particularly concerning or which sounded like harrassment.

Blueeilidh · 25/09/2021 22:48

I can't see anything to report.

Original poster
xgt45 · 25/09/2021 22:49

Thank you everyone. I just wanted an opinion to make sure I was making the right call of not reporting. I never felt like he was harassing me just felt it was a little unprofessional and strange.

OP posts:
Theworldishard · 25/09/2021 22:51

People are downplaying this. It is NOT ok to personally text a customer from your work phone about their evening plans. It is weird and unprofessional. He could one day lure a vulnerable woman in to meeting him.

TartanJumper · 25/09/2021 22:58

Leave it, he stopped when you said he was bothering you.

Kite22 · 25/09/2021 23:06

People are downplaying this. It is NOT ok to personally text a customer from your work phone about their evening plans. It is weird and unprofessional. He could one day lure a vulnerable woman in to meeting him.

Or, it could lead to a lovely romance and a wonderful life together.
Lots of people go out with work colleagues or customers they meet through work. It is very common to meet potential partners through work. Nothing weird about it at all. Nothing unprofessional (unless you work as a professional with vulnerable people / position of trust).

OP - like others, I can see nothing to report here.
He started a conversation with someone who had been friendly earlier on, and you said you weren't interested. The end.

Theworldishard · 25/09/2021 23:10

@Kite22

People are downplaying this. It is NOT ok to personally text a customer from your work phone about their evening plans. It is weird and unprofessional. He could one day lure a vulnerable woman in to meeting him.

Or, it could lead to a lovely romance and a wonderful life together.
Lots of people go out with work colleagues or customers they meet through work. It is very common to meet potential partners through work. Nothing weird about it at all. Nothing unprofessional (unless you work as a professional with vulnerable people / position of trust).

OP - like others, I can see nothing to report here.
He started a conversation with someone who had been friendly earlier on, and you said you weren't interested. The end.

How would he know if a customer was vulnerable?
Kite22 · 25/09/2021 23:20

Sorry, I don't understand your question.

I'm obviously talking about police officers / social workers / psychiatrists / mental health workers etc etc whose professional relationship with people is one where they have come into contact with the person because of their vulnerability - hence the 'position of trust' reference.

Most jobs don't involve that power imbalance, so there is no issue with one adult seeing if another adult might like to 'start a concersation' or meet for a drink, or whatever.

CoRhona · 25/09/2021 23:44

I would report that. He had your number and under some bollocks pretence was fishing to see if you were interested. And yes, I bet he does it to loads of people. Completely unprofessional and creepy AF.

thefourgp · 26/09/2021 08:41

Actually, I’ve changed my mind. I agree with @CoRhona. I work for a bank and I wouldn’t dream of texting a customer who’d been friendly with me to fish for a date. I bet he does do it to lots of women. I’d complain, say it made you uncomfortable and his boss should ensure he doesn’t use customer’s personal information for dating in the future.

Underamour · 26/09/2021 08:45

I would leave it myself.

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