In laws

[isitmeorthem2]

I need advice.

My in laws since I've known them. I've bent over backwards for them all. I've always dropped what I'm doing to help them out, allowed them to live at mine when they were having troubles. I even pay out for something for them when I don't need too it's just to keep the peace.

However bit by bit they've been shutting me out. Started with my SIL and her kids, now another niece is ingoring me (when I know she's fine with everyone else.) I've litteratly done nothing to offend or upset them.
I live by my in laws. My family live 100s of miles away so they are all I have as I struggle to make friends and my husband won't move to where my family live.
It's making me really depressed as it's very lonely. Is there something wrong with me?

What does your dh do while this is happening?

I even pay out for something for them when I don't need too it's just to keep the peace. why do you feel you have to pay for something for them?

Has your Husband confronted them? Why does he refuse to move? Would you want to move near your family, or can you - for me its not an option due to husbands job being very specific area related, but we live near neither family.

Can you start to do things to try and make more friends independently I understand how hard it is as we get older.

Is this going to be yet another DH problem?

What does he say about the way his family treat you? I would be inclined to move back to my family - sounds like they are all taking the piss out of you.