AIBU to think my DD ‘boyfriend’ is a numpty??

[Whiskeywithwater]

They’ve been texting for about 6 months … see each other once a week (but this isn’t a social thing- it’s just where they met) … but he just cannot seem to get his shit together to actually go out with her anywhere. The texts (so I’m told) make it very clear he really likes her .. but every time they arrange to go out (at his instigation I may add) he lets her down with some crap excuse! They’re 15 and 16 for context .. what the fuck is going on? I’ve obviously told her to just move on .. but she really likes him and doesn’t want to .. so what DOES go on in 16 year olds boys’ heads?

You are way too involved in this. You said your piece to her, she didn’t listen (like her and a million teens before her) to reason. She will learn by herself the hard way, it’s just life.

Yep, you’re right - just frustrating picking up the pieces time after time.

They are 15 & 16 I don't want to be the bearer of bad news but he is probably getting all he 'needs' from her via the messaging. This is both positive and negative. It could be sexting etc which of course no one what's to think of their child doing, but equally if he isn't really interested in her I would be glad they are not meeting fact to face.

It could be that he hasn’t got any money and thinks she won’t be happy with just sitting in a park for a couple of hours?

Or it could be that he likes her but has had a better offer and would rather spend time with his mates.

Or it could be that he’s got all of the benefits of having a girlfriend just with the texting, without actually having to put any effort in.

Ewww - ok! God, will try not to think about that too much! Ugh

Well I imagine that your daughter might just be a lot more socially confident than him? He may be worried that she will not find him interesting, charming, attractive etc IRL.

It’s likely he may also be worried about kissing, hand holding etc if it’s his first experience (outside of watching porn online!) given that poor teens weren’t even allowed to socialise for much of the last 18 months I’m assuming this is the case.

Who cares! They are re just kids, leave them to it