Gaming

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Hi

Husband spends most nights on his ps5, probably 5 hours a night. Kids and I sit upstairs. On the rare occasion I go out he will do the same. AIBU to think this is too much and he is addicted to it?.

I am doing housework etc while he is doing this and he doesn't even notice.

Many thanks

LTB

Of course YANBU. what’s good about him? He sounds awful.

Replies above are harsh - we don't know anything else about the bloke!

5 hours a night is definitely a sign of addiction. My partner and I both game but not for more than 90 minutes in a row on a "gaming" day. It's hard to concentrate for longer than that and we certainly don't game every evening.

No, I think you’re being unreasonable and his behaviour is entirely normal, healthy and proportionate.

I am, of course, being sarcastic.

It’s way over the top and time you had a chat with him.

Yes and how unattractive.

Have you considered LTB?

He's taking the absolute piss, and it would be ultimatum time for me. He either grows up, starts being an active and present partner and father, or out he goes.

Hi
Thanks for your replies. So I thought he might have realised he was in the wrong and he stayed off the game during today (while I looked after the kids and took them out) but he has been back on it since about 6pm. Feel like I have lost a husband and gained a son x

Has he suddenly started doing it?

Or did you have kids with a low quality loser who has no interest in you or his children at all? I expect you cook his food and wash his clothes. He really has it made. A PS5 and a servant.

Men like this don't suddenly morph into interested, dedicated fathers. They have no interest in their family and see them as a drain on their personal time. It's a shame, but he's likely always been this way and you thought he'd change.

People don't change.

Kids and I sit upstairs why ?

Would anyone be saying LTB if it was a husband complaining about his wife watching Netflix and knitting for 5 hours every evening?

Nowt wrong with gaming.

Everything wrong with obsessive addictive behaviour that leads someone to totally checking out of family life and avoiding their responsibilities.

What does he say when you speak to him about his behaviour?

If he is addicted he may well need professional help to break it. It's not a matter of 'stay off the game' it is a serious addiction.

Gaming is not your problem - your problem is your husband.

Why are you sitting upstairs while he indulges? Parenting is a partnership. If he isn't doing his part, he can get to fuck. Everyone deserves an escape - you included!! - but when that escape takes over, it's time to have a serious conversation about the future of his relationship with you and with his children.

@XenoBitch

Would anyone be saying LTB if it was a husband complaining about his wife watching Netflix and knitting for 5 hours every evening?

With kids involved? Of course, what are you talking about. This isn't about and shouldn't be about "gaming" - it's about a hobby that's out of control.

@XenoBitch

Would anyone be saying LTB if it was a husband complaining about his wife watching Netflix and knitting for 5 hours every evening?

Of course they would, if it meant their partner was doing all of the housework and childcare whilst they sat on their arse and disengaged from family life.