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To think the agency have done this to be spiteful?

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Myfavouritepillow · 24/09/2021 01:09

A late night wonder...

I'm a nanny and I was with my last family for 5 years until the youngest started full time school. I absolutely adore them and miss the job so much. I was lucky to find a job so close to home as they don't come up that often (small rural village). I finished with them back in July and have been working in a nursery since whilst trying to find a new family to work for. I don't want to rush into things as I'd rather find the right family for me, settle and stay in the role long term. I've worked in nurseries before and whilst it's ok and pays the bills, I don't enjoy it as much as I do being a nanny and having more of a personal relationship with kids and their families.

Two weeks ago a position in the next town came up. The family sounded lovely and the description matched what I was looking for so I applied via the agency. They immediately contacted me and asked me a few questions. We had an informal chat and I registered with them. The following day they sent me a list of other roles that they had available (which I'd already looked at before applying for the other one) and asked if I'd be interested in any of them. Apparently they'd been trying to fill them for a while. Due to a number of reasons (location too far away, not enough hours, low pay) I wasn't interested in them and explained that I was only interested in the one that I'd originally applied for. The lady said that was fine and that she would put together a profile and send it over to the family, except she didn't.

I received a phone call today off a different lady who said that a family had come back up after reading my profile and wanted to meet up with me. It's a completely different job (one that was on the list they'd sent me) and not the one that I applied for. I politely explained that I wasn't interested in that role and that I'd already explained that to her colleague. I then asked if they'd still be able to forward my profile to the family that I was actually interested and was told that they thought my skills and experience didn't match the family's needs Confused.

I came away from the conversation feeling annoyed, but should I be? The role that I applied for was a fairly new advert and some of the positions that they'd sent me had already been listed for a month or so. Clearly they were trying to fill the positions as quick as they could but I wasn't interested and the one position that I did like they wouldn't put me forward for, even though they originally said they would Hmm. Just felt quite spiteful to me. AIBU?

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IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 24/09/2021 01:23

Not spiteful,more a usual occurrence with agencies I’m afraid.
From none jobs that don’t exist just to get you in on their books,to taking no notice of what you are looking for.
They are a bit like a dodgy boyfriend with the false advertising to draw you in and once in give you grief.They try to grind you down by constantly offering jobs lesser than what you originally applied for.
It seems to be their modus operandi to try and break your confidence and get you to drop your boundaries so you will take anything.
Red flags all the way,I’m afraid.

Obbydoo · 24/09/2021 03:51

Why didn't they put you forward? Maybe you don't meet the family's spec? No recruiter would prevent a candidate going forward for a role if they genuinely matched the spec, there just isn't any logic for that.

The only other possibility is that the family doesn't exist and that they've created a fake profile to get you on their books. Sadly that's a pretty regular and very shitty tactic that the low end of the recruitment market use.

myheartskippedabeat · 24/09/2021 04:07

I'd advertise myself locally and cut out the middle man!

Mary46 · 24/09/2021 08:49

Agencies suit themselves I think. Mine was office. I messaged her said last few roles were awful so would have be right this time! Honestly they out for themselves!!

ManifestDestinee · 24/09/2021 08:53

The one you applied for is a fake profile to get you on their books and push the jobs at you that they can't offload. Standard practice in all forms of recruitment agency.

MrsRobbieHart · 24/09/2021 08:56

Sounds like they have more information about the job than you and know you don’t meet the criteria.

purpleme12 · 24/09/2021 09:09

I would have asked why you don't meet their needs
They might have still spouted some rubbish but it might have put them on the spot

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