Hello all,
I was in a very toxic friendship for the past many years .IT was as if my friend was never ever happy .I had so many people who are going major shifts in life .My cousin who recently got divorced .My other friend whos child is diagnosed with a heart condition .Another one who recently lost her father to covid .but still I find them more positive in life than this friend .I thought I had enough of her .her constant cribbing about house work , hubby not able to help around the home due to work pressure and children always being grumpy really irritated me a lot .Since our husbands are good friends and its a long friendship they have I tolerated it .Didn't wanted it to break but I think today was the breaking point .I picked up her phone (I generally avoid picking up ) but she rang many times , thought some emergency so picked up .Again she was at work and said she is fedup with something and needs suggestions .I offered her some suggestions .she started off !Your suggestions are too extreme and I think you are never serious about my issues .I said oh hell ! what issues ?I told her that if she is unhappy with her life which is financially stable and has a loving family she must have a look around and see what others go through and still are positive .but even she is not so happy she must give her life a new direction,get engrossed in something that is of interest .Was my suggestion extreme ? I also told her never to call me ever again for such small issues .AIBU ?(I know it really marked the end of friendship of my hubby with her husband but I did it for my sanity .