COVID has apparently turned my family into social pariahs

[Thidwick]

Large COVID numbers at DS2’s school - all pupils in his class were asked to take a precautionary PCR test. His was negative, I took one at the same time which was positive. DS 1 and DH have since tested negative too.

The reaction to DS1 returning to school as per government guidance that he doesn’t need to self isolate has been shock, horror, outrage etc. particularly from a few parents who have chosen not to get vaccinated.

Wtf am I meant to do - keep him at home?! I don’t make the bloody rules. Not that it makes a difference, but I’m asymptomatic - wouldn’t have known I had bloody COVID if I hadn’t had to take DS2 to be tested.

[quote Thidwick]@marykitty you’re right - in their shoes I’d feel the same way. I suspect my two have had it already and passed it to me but I’ve no way of knowing that for definite. DH will do something special with DS2 to make up for it[/quote]
He will have for sure a nice time with his dad. Best wishes again for a fast recovery of the whole family

I suspect I would positively enjoy telling the unvaccinated ones that they have no cause to complain, it's a risk they have chosen to take, and they can't expect you to break the law because of their choices. Assuming, of course, that they are unvaccinated by choice rather than due to medical reasons and/or disability.

@BoredZelda

damned if you do, damned if you don’t

Not sure many would damn you for not choosing to send him in.

We have friends who are going abroad at half term and wanted to take their dc out 2 weeks early just in case they caught it and have been told it won’t be authorised.

I suspect I would positively enjoy telling the unvaccinated ones that they have no cause to complain, it's a risk they have chosen to take, and they can't expect you to break the law because of their choices.

I suspect the unvaccinated ones aren’t actually complaining. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Thidwick

Of the anti-vaxxers, a couple are care workers wondering about what they are going to do once their job requires it and one has health issues and is concerned about getting it even though they’re not medically exempt.

I wouldn’t lose any sleep over either of them if I were you. They had the chance, as did all of us over 18’s.

They will be lucky to avoid it or will learn the hard way, either way it’s nit your concern. I really feel for teachers though and those with families undergoing cancer treatment etc.

I keep calling them anti-vaxxers - two of the three have told me in the past they and their children have had all the usual vaccines. It’s just the COVID one they’re shying away from because it was developed so quickly, full side effects not yet realised etc.

Why do they know you have it? It surely should be private…

I think the rules are stupid personally but YANBU.

Well the side effects of covid are well publicised, so they’re obviously not the sharpest.

Dh and I are fully vaccinated and despite being breathed all over by dc (who is positive) we have both tested negative. I am so thankful for the vaccine and the scientists who developed it..

@Lollipop444 me too - I have been terrified of getting it (a serious case and being in hospital/getting long COVID) I am so relieved and grateful to have had the vaccine and no notable symptoms

I think you could actually get in trouble for not sending him in as things stand, as it’s an unauthorised absence?

Send him in.

Ignore the muppets.

You’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t, and sooner or later everyone with more than 1 DC in school will have to face this.

I wouldn’t judge you. Just harden your heart to it - it’ll blow over.

I think you could actually get in trouble for not sending him in as things stand, as it’s an unauthorised absence?

Our schools (3 different schools) are perfectly happy and seem to prefer it.

I would keep my dd off if I had covid, regardless of what the rules say. I can understand parents whether vaccinated or not being upset. Lots of people still don't want to catch and pass covid on, especially as we are being told the vaccine is wearing off on those first vaccinated the old and the CEV who are also most likely to be seriously ill from it.

At my school we've had 1 parent test positive and then later the other and they were asking whether to send in their 4 year old to school!!! I think common sense has to come in to it, child are passing it around each other. We also have an outbreak in our primary school of children having it, like many other schools in my area, where half a class are off with it. PHE are being unless and just saying go to bubbles and teach outside.

I get that, but let's say you're a family of five. You all get it one after the other. The last kid would have already had 40 days in isolation before they even got a sniffle. That's not sustainable is it?

@SeasonFinale

Maybe those unvaccinated ones should rethink their decision rather than berating you for following guidance

Total non sequitur

@Thidwick

I keep calling them anti-vaxxers - two of the three have told me in the past they and their children have had all the usual vaccines. It’s just the COVID one they’re shying away from because it was developed so quickly, full side effects not yet realised etc.

Thank you for this reasoning.

I am unable to take vaccines but am very at peace in total isolation.

A very wise old saying for such times . " This too shall pass" Or as Shakespeare says, "Time and the hour run through the roughest day"

From someone currently in isolation for non-covid as well as covid reasons,,, So commiserations. And (((HUGS)))

ALso very very unwell

Yanbu. It doesnt matter if school children catch it really, the risk to them is negligible.

Anyone CEV should be vaccinated by now.

People need to accept, we are not trying to stop it spreading now. That ship has sailed, its endemic. The focus now is on preventing severe Covid by vaccinating.

Hope you’re feeling better soon @SoloISland

@itispersonal I wonder what they’re going to do long term - surely unfeasible to give every adult in the country a booster every year? What a horrible state of limbo we’re all in

The unvaccinated ones have absolutely no right to criticise. And IMO it’s perfectly fine to prioritise your DS within the rules given where we are now and how long this has all gone on for.

@BlameItOnTheBlackStar while necessary at various times, the isolation/lockdown measures have been awful for children’s well-being.

DS2 is autistic and doesn’t know whether he’s coming or going at the moment. He’s only been at school for 3 weeks and now his class has closed. He’s non verbal but has made it very clear that he’s been really upset by the sudden change. I am relieved that he doesn’t have to self isolate as we have no garden and he would be like a caged animal.

Thanks @RobinPenguins - we’ve had very few cases of COVID in the area have been living in a bit of a safe bubble until now

[quote Thidwick]@itispersonal I wonder what they’re going to do long term - surely unfeasible to give every adult in the country a booster every year? What a horrible state of limbo we’re all in[/quote]
Isn't that the same as the annual flu jab