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AIBU?

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Original poster

To pull out of house purchase as I don't like the vendor?

129 replies

BeepBoopBop · 23/09/2021 13:08

Way down the line with this, but sick of vendors miserable attitude & stroppy Whatsapps. I've moved heaven & earth to get this done in 3 weeks, my solicitor is charging a fortune to prioritise and it's one thing after another. Other houses have come onto the market since and this house was a knee-jerk reaction following a break up. I love it, but she is making everything so miserable.

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PaulGallico · 23/09/2021 14:53

Seasoned house buyers really do not care about the temperament of the vendor.

Derbee · 23/09/2021 14:59

Your updates make the situation sound more and more ridiculous.

Seasoned house buyer, but you’re buying without seeing it, without a survey, on your friend’s say so, allowing the vendor to push a quick sale, allowing the vendor to communicate directly rather than through your solicitors.

As a cash buyer, there are usually more stringent checks that solicitors recommend, as a lot of mortgage lenders do their own valuations/checks etc. As an individual rather than a bank, your solicitor should be even more cautious on your behalf

PlonkyWillyWonky · 23/09/2021 15:00

Hmm how about you buy a nice car to go with your nice house? Buy one you've never seen, never driven and don't know the service history or whether it's got an Mot
But if your mate says it's nice and you've driven for a long time what could possibly go wrong 🙄

SunnyLeaf · 23/09/2021 15:03

Why is everyone being so rude and bitchy to OP? Would you talk this way to people you met in person?

AnotherFruitcake · 23/09/2021 15:06

@SunnyLeaf

Why is everyone being so rude and bitchy to OP? Would you talk this way to people you met in person?

Isn’t the point of posting in an anonymous forum that you circumvent the baffled default politeness the OP would be likely to get if she claimed to her RL circle that, despite being a ‘seasoned buyer’ she was buying for cash a house she had not seen inside of, and had not had surveyed, on the say-so of a friend?

PlonkyWillyWonky · 23/09/2021 15:06

TBH @SunnyLeaf yes I would, because I'd be worried

NCForthisxox · 23/09/2021 15:17

@PaulGallico

Seasoned house buyers really do not care about the temperament of the vendor.

I've bought two houses and I pulled out of one because the vendor kept being pushy and trying to charge for things like blinds which I didn't want and carpets which were used it wasn't a new build 🤣🤣 then she was harassing me at all hours on the phone it was ridiculous.

ChargingBuck · 23/09/2021 15:21

@SunnyLeaf

Why is everyone being so rude and bitchy to OP? Would you talk this way to people you met in person?

Yes, if it meant they were saved from losing a shitload of cash due to their erroneous impression of themselves as some kind of house-buying expert.

BlokeHereInPeace · 23/09/2021 15:25

This has to be a lie.

saraclara · 23/09/2021 15:25

@SunnyLeaf

Why is everyone being so rude and bitchy to OP? Would you talk this way to people you met in person?

Are you new here?

Bluesheep8 · 23/09/2021 15:26

Why are people swapping contact details with eachother?
That's what estate agents and solicitors are for.

Fenelladepompom · 23/09/2021 15:33

Something very fishy about this.

SweetPetrichor · 23/09/2021 15:34

You are not a wise seasoned buyer if you're considering buying in these circumstances. It doesn't matter how lovely the interior is, a lot can be hidden behind what appears to be a quality finish. You need to inspect it. You need to see surveys. You need an expert opinion if you are not an expert in structures yourself.
It doesn't matter if you're a cash buyer, that's no reason to skip the sensible steps.
I just bought my house - cash sale - a few weeks back, and of course I still went through all the logical steps. Home report, background checks on the land, checks that all building warrants, permits and completion certificates were in place, copies of all the construction plans for the improves over the years. And of course, viewing the property. I am a structural engineer...and even I wouldn't wing it! Nobody can see beyond the surface, not even an expert. That's why you check the details.

SprayedWithDettol · 23/09/2021 15:36

I’m a very seasoned buyer of property and OP you are making a huge mistake. You really need to halt the process until you have physically viewed the property and had a survey. Anything else is truly foolish.

Gonnagetgoing · 23/09/2021 15:38

@ComtesseDeSpair

The mistake was giving them your phone number. Block and communicate through estate agent and solicitor, this is literally why they exist.

This with bells on. From working with conveyancing solicitors before we would never ever give parties in a conveyancing transaction as that’s what we and the estate agent are paid to deal with and it all gets very convoluted and personal if both parties do communicate. In my experience anyway.

Back off and block her number and tell her to communicate through solicitor and estate agent.

billy1966 · 23/09/2021 15:38

@andtheweedonkey

Other houses have come onto the market since and this house was a knee-jerk reaction

Tell your solicitor to STOP working today if you're thinking of pulling out.
No point chucking good money down the drain. Look for something else and let the estate agent be the means of communication.

This.

Don't go ahead if you have doubts.

2bazookas · 23/09/2021 15:39

I have absolutely no interest in liking a buyer (or seller) as I'm never going to be their neighbour.

You are paying a solicitor to handle all negotiations on your behalf.
Let them earn their money.

Frankly I've never either bought or sold a property where the conveyance could be finalised in three weeks, so you're perhaps being unrealistic in that expectation.

Nomorepies · 23/09/2021 15:40

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speakout · 23/09/2021 15:43

You don;t sound like a " seasoned house buyer" OP ( what does that actually mean?)

You sound like a rookie.

Gonnagetgoing · 23/09/2021 15:45

@2bazookas

I have absolutely no interest in liking a buyer (or seller) as I'm never going to be their neighbour.

You are paying a solicitor to handle all negotiations on your behalf.
Let them earn their money.

Frankly I've never either bought or sold a property where the conveyance could be finalised in three weeks, so you're perhaps being unrealistic in that expectation.

This too - a good solicitor is being paid to handle all negotiations on your behalf so they should be allowed to do their job.

In my experience at the very least - a conveyance was handled quickest within 6-8 weeks from start to finish - that's taking into account surveys etc - which even though you think you shouldn't have these done, most solicitors and estate agents worth their salt would advise to have all these done.

On the very very rare occasion where we were pushed in conveyancing transactions for a very quick sale, cutting corners etc - this is where things went wrong and the sale/purchase fell through, so honestly just get a survey done and physically view the property yourself - don't rely on second hand info from a mate.

Chloemol · 23/09/2021 15:45

Sorry but seasoned home buyer or not you are an idiot not to get a survey

It may look as if work has been done to a high standard but it could be hiding something

You sound like you have more money than sense

TheUnbearable · 23/09/2021 15:46

You are insane considering purchasing without a survey. We went to look at a house about 5 years ago, lovely looking place that had been extended, gorgeous garden and ticked literally every box. The guy who had bought but was a cash buyer. The survey came back and it needed an entire new roof and had some worrying subsidence issues. We rescinded our offer.

The house did sell, it was covered in scaffolding about 3 years ago having its new roof.

Gonnagetgoing · 23/09/2021 15:47

@speakout

You don;t sound like a " seasoned house buyer" OP ( what does that actually mean?)

You sound like a rookie.

Even seasoned house buyers who my old boss (conveyancing solicitor) had as his clients and who had extensive property portfolios, all went through the necessary searches etc of a conveyancing transaction.

Rookies, as OP very much sounds like, liked to cut corners and do the bare minimum and even 'avoid search fees' (usually fairly negligible anyway).

speakout · 23/09/2021 15:49

Gonnagetgoing

Yes- I would expect an experienced house buyer to be even more vigilant - with experience comes awareness of pitfalls.

SingingInTheShithouse · 23/09/2021 15:50

Be very careful. There's a reason she's rudely harassing you into moving more quickly than is the norm & it won't be in your interest, especially if you haven't even seen the place

Been there, done that, was harassed to hell to complete on their terms, sweet little old man turned out to be a nasty abusive stalking wanker who was pushing for completion before I even had the full survey & was even ringing me at work.

There was a ton more very expensive work to be done & I ended up telling him to get lost & pulled out of buying the house. Lost money, but I would have lost a lot more. Turned out I was the end of a long line of buyers he'd done the same thing with

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